I'm rejecting my dog.

[Tollers-n-Dobes]

Dobies (especially young ones, under 4) are extremely active and energetic dogs. If I ever get another one it definitely won't be a young one I'm sure. I'd highly recommend taking some obedience classes. They're good for socializing, training with distractions, and the instructor (if they're any good) can teach you how to deal with different issues and let you know what to do so your dog appreciates and respects you. Female Dobermans in general will never show they love you like most dogs (the can be pretty reserved and like their own space), but you should still feel it and feel respected by her.

Also, mental activities tire a dog out much quicker than physical activites. I'd work on lots of obedience skills, tricks, getting peanut butter out of a kong, etc. every day as well as let her run and play. Dobes certainly are a lot of dog and many people feel the same way as you with their younger Dobermans. You're definitely not alone, but I hope you have some success with her and enjoy her. Once they're relaxed and well mannered and trained dogs, they're honestly (in my opinion) one of the best breeds out there. But like I said, it usually takes them a good 3-4 years to reach that point and it takes a lot of work.

[sleeper]

Hi All
Thanks for your honest replies.I shall attempt to answer some of your questions!!!
We did actually do a lot of research before we got the dobermann pups. We were at it for nearly a year!!We even researched their bloodlines and temeperaments! We had the house dog proofed as well!.We knew it wouldn't all be plain sailing.My partner had the an accident at work after we got them and basically broke his hand. I was left doing a lot for them.Obviously i didn't really mind, sure what can you do?I know suffer from agonising shoulders and chest muscles.
As to the suggestions for entertaining them we do all that!! ...kongs with peanut butter...parks...running...frisbee too and training...they do know their obedience commands.Most of the time they neglect to acknowledge them!!
There was a suggestion to get a trainer to observe myself and Sheera and i think i'll go with that as a last resort.
I am used to have large energetic dogs. I grew up surrounded by them!!We kept Setters and G. Retreivers and little spaniels and a german shepherd.
I wasn't completely blind!
I think mayb it might be the fact that i can't give her as much freedom or leeway as i gave my dogs growing up. People don't tend to be a scared of a golden retreiver wanting to play with them as a dobermann!!
I'm going to give it one last try and if things aren't improving i may have to rehome her.(and mayb try some pick me up for myself a few more ideas on special training aides, I already use a under the leg pinch harness)

Thank guys, you were really helpful and honest.

[pitc9]

I wish you luck and applaud you for realizing that you can't give her the life she needs and so deserves as a Dobie and reaching out for help instead of turning your back on her and giving up.
I know you love her and want to keep her, but as you said:

"I think maybe it might be the fact that I can't give her as much freedom or leeway as I gave my dogs growing up"

As for having a trainer or behaviorist observe you and Sheere, I think that should be one of the first things you need to do and not a last resort.
This way they can tell you what you need to do and how to help you both.