Quote Originally Posted by Craftlady
It was mentioned in the first post explaining the situation that you rarely get to see each other in person.


It appears that he doesnt feel this is a serious relationship either when you are together. Making you feel like a "guest" in his house speaks volumes that this guy is NOT on the same wave length as you in considering the relationship "boyfriend/girlfriend" and/or committed relationship to date exclusively.

The great communication via IM is more like best friends which is ok IF that's what you want from him but I sense that's not the case.

My advise, If someone nice wants to take you out, I'd go for it.
Waiting for this guy to commit isnt going to happen.
Wow.....I couldn't have said this better!

It sounds like your 'relationship' is purely IM's and maybe a phone call once in a while. He wants a 'buddy' not a girlfriend.

BTW- does he refer to you as his 'girlfriend'???

Sorry Candace, But I think you are reading more into this relationship than he is.......

I had a BF that did this to me, but we did sleep together well, thought I'd get right to the point, but anyway he made it perfectly clear in the beginning that we were just going to be 'friends' and nothing more. After 5 years of putting up with that s*** I decided enough was enough, shortly after I dumped him I met my husband and I knew from the start that HE was the one. When former BF found out about new BF all of a sudden he was in 'love' with me and wanted me back.......HA!

Any way the moral to this story is: sit down, in person with BF (or whatever) and ask him directly - where is this relationship going??? What are WE doing? If he hyms & haws, dump him. He is not worth your time, and I think you know this already.........sorry.

PM me if you want to talk more, I'm always here for you Candace! And I want to see you happy!!