BF ~ Thanks! That helps. I was going to say (if it was your brother) that you were making too much of it 'cuz you probably figured out by now that you had a weird brother.

Boyfriend seems to be giving you all the signals that he's going to only "allow" you in just so much into his life. I think you should stop "pussy footing" around (sorry, I couldn't resist) and go anywhere you want. Plop yourself down in the middle of the room and make yourself at home. If he blows a gasket, well let him. If he's going to be the one setting all the rules -- and you're always having to prove yourself or audition for the role of girlfriend.......... well, that's gonna get old real fast and you may find it wasn't worth the effort.

Maybe it's the menopause kicking in, but I don't have time for people like that anymore. I'd tell him that you are the way you are. Nothing wrong with you. And he's on notice that he needs to prove himself to you that he is worth any more of your time. 'Cuz the clock is ticking!

Now, if you're happy with the majority of the relationship (is this the only thing he tries to control in your life?) then let it go. But, if this is just an example of one of the walls he has up......... Buh-bye now. We're gonna miss you. Thanks for playing and we have some lovely parting gifts for you.