SORRY - I meant BF!

Cataholic...He did address this the next time we spoke on the phone, and said he very much respected - and mentioned that he really meant this - the care that my mom and I each have for our pets.

Interesting thought about trying to move on - the "should" - vs the guilt, ie, what IS and real.

It's not me, it's him.

He asked what my dreams and hopes were. So from my gut I said to have a place to foster cats, and to collect and edit the road musician anthology I have always wanted to do.

He is truly kind and thoughtful, and frequently refers to our time together as "be nice to Candace day".

Thanks for feedback and do post more IF you want. I don't want to make all decisions inside my own head!