Looking for advice

[NoahsMommy]

Honey, I know she's your sister. Please don't take this the wrong way...you're the only one there to HELP these animals, but to her, you are enabling her to keep on doing what she's doing. You help, to keep these poor things alive, but in doing so, your sister sees you as a way to get her out of trouble each time she needs it and knows that you'll always be there again and again because you CARE.

You need to report her. The animals will go to a rescue or hopefully a non-kill shelter and she'll have to deal with the law - and see that her sister will no longer bail her out. She will then see that the only person that was bailing her and her animals out is the one that called her out and wont be there in the future to bring food and toys to her animals and maybe she'll stop, thus ENDING her cycle.

I know it sounds mean and heartless. But if your sister can do this to poor, defenseless animals. Creatures that need food, water, a clean, warm surface to sleep, roof above its head and a safe place to live - and she purposely will NOT provide that - there's something mean spirited about that. If she decides not to like you anymore, you aren't missing someone that does nice things.

We like and appreciate you here. And you can start using your time and $$ on animals that may go to forever homes, instead of the animals your sister continually abuses.

I hope I don't sound too harsh, I honestly don't mean to be. But I think that to stop the cycle of what she's doing - and what you try to do to correct and help - this is the ONLY solution, hun. You are so kind to help these animals she does this to, you really are.

You CAN call Anonymous too I think. That could preserve your relationship if you still wanted it...

Hugs, Kelly

EDIT to add:
Freedom has a good idea...volunteer at or at least call to see what happens to animals that are taken from homes when reported. Or, you could line up homes via rescues and then call in and report her, giving them names of rescues and having the reps from the rescues waiting at the facility when they pick up the animals to be CERTAIN they go to the rescue. If your sister still has KITTENS, those will go to homes very quickly. If she has kittens, that means she's having lots of litters, nice.

[slleipnir]

I actually know the lady who manages (or whatever it's called) our shelter. We only have one on the island. I used to volunteer a lot there and got to know the staff. I'm not 100% sure but I'm pretty sure if an animal stays for a long period of time, it is PTS for it's well being..I guess...?

I honestly do not know that I can report my sister. I'm pretty sure she'd figure out it was me even if I told them not to tell. They really don't have friends that I know of...and she knows I'm the only one who is "anal" about it. which is why she lies to me.

I believe she just doesn't see it clearly. She's too wrapped up with her own life that she can't see that what she's doing is wrong...I'm not saying that makes it right. I just mean she's not neccessarily a bad person. She has problems but she's a good person and I love her. I fear it wouldn't just be me she'd stop talking to. I can see my dad some how getting sucked into it. He says he feels bad too but there isn't anything I can do. and said what are you going to report her or something?

I honestly am torn with what to do. I may wait and ask mom what she thinks. It makes me cry knowing that poor animal is treated this way. I know she would just get another dog and do the same thing to it if they took Jade away. She, for some reason, thinks she needs pets. She DOES NOT have the money for pets. I'd LOVE another dog...but I know I don't have the time, or room for one right now and it wouldn't be fair....why is it so hard to see that?

she's a sweet little dog. It's such a shame. I just wish I could some how get her to admit to it and work on it. I know she loves the dog so I don't get why she can't care for it better. I think that because she has the kittens now the dog isn't as important. That doesn't make sense to me because I got Josie first and she's still as important to me as she ever was and equally to my other pets if not more..

bleh ok ranting again. I'm so confused....My dad thinks my niece is stretching the truth (as she's her daughter....) but I just can't over look it...especially with signs I've seen with her like how hyper she is, how she doesn't know how to play, etc...

(edit)
also, if it got out that I reported her, and it was my neice who told me, my sister would take it out on my niece....I don't want that to happen...

oh and she got her kittens from a farm. They're both male and apperintly not allowed outside. She SAYS she'll have them neutered....I told her they'll spray everything in her house if she doesn't...I'm hoping she won't take that as "oh. time to make them go outside all the time. Hope they dont get hit by one of the many cars on the highway we live on..."

she also makes a point to tell me how her husband things it's cruel my cat is declawed...which, btw the reason I adopted butter at 2 years was because he was declawed already and I knew my dad make me rehome him if he had claws. funny how she sees the cruelty of declawing but not what she's doing. and also, so far she seems to take good care of the kittens. other then the milk

[crow_noir]

Fine if you aren't going to report her, give the information to someone here that you trust and we/they can report her. ...Then when she accuses you of turning her in you can say you did nothing of the sort... and you won't be lying.

[IRescue452]

Is your niece old enough to be home alone? Could she smuggle the dog out of the house and say it bolted when she opened the door? She seems to care enough to help somehow.

When I worked at a kennel, I met dogs who didn't know how to play. You could always tell which ones just plain didn't like to play and which ones didn't know what a toy was. It was always heartbreaking when they didn't know what a toy was.

[anna_66]

OK, maybe this is cruel for me to say...but there's really NOTHING you can do as long as the dog has a roof over it's head, food and water. That's it...period. I think all you'd be doing is causing a big riff between you and your sister.
I know you don't like the way she treats her animals, but there again they are her animals. Kinda like people and their kids. I don't like the way a lot of people treat their kids but there's not a thing I can do about it.

I hope one of these days you can make her realize she needs to do better by her pets. I know how aggravating it can be.
Lots of (((HUGS)))
Anna

[cyber-sibes]

Can you talk to her about this cycle of neglect you see and that you will report her if she doesn't give up this dog? (I'm sure you've dropped plenty of hints, but have you ever confronted her about it?)
As mentioned, there is really nothing you can do about stopping her from getting another, and another, and another, sad, really. It has to be heartbreakiing for you to watch.

[slleipnir]

Honestly, she doesn't listen to anything I say. I tell her she needs to walk the dog, give it atleast a little better quality food so it puts on a little weight, it can't be in the cage all day etc. She lies to me and tells me she does these things when it's obvious she doesn't....