VENTING - RANTING whatever you call it...

[jackmilliesmom]

Things are bad and people live in awful conditions but he said to me this morning that last week was the best he has eaten in a long time I felt so mad and so sad too. He said that he has been eating out of the local take away and deli counters for the last 2 years and only eats a proper dinner when they visit me for dinner - what is she at she is a sprightly 63 years old and fitter than I am and she just does nothing. She could not be operated on until Tuesday morning because she had drink taken and she fell that morning at 11 a.m. and could not have pain killers and everything else associated wiht it until the alcohol had left her system how much had she got to drink??????????

[Marigold2]

Sounds like there is some depression going on perhaps some Altzheimers. Can you get them to a Dr. for a check up? You did a good thing. Good luck to you.

[Miss Z]

Oh my, I sympathise with you completely. You are doing the right thing, and don't let anybody tell you that you aren't. Your MIL should be thankful that she has someone like you in her family that is prepared to help her out to such an extent in problems such as this. She needs to remember that kind people like you don't grow on trees!

I really hope that your MIL addresses her drink problem. Has your husband tried to talk to her about this privately? Not to be rude or anything, but words may have a little more depth to them if they come from her son, and if he explains how her actions are upsetting him and those close to him, then surely she must see sense.

[jackmilliesmom]

He has tried every approach and even to the extent of going to the G. P. to see if he could get her signed in somewhere if FIL would agree and that was last Friday FIL and hubby were to meet wiht GP on Tues to arrange this but somethings are not meant to be so she wound up in hosp first with an injury. Her last words to FIL yesterday were cannot wait to get out gasping for a drink!!! She is really pushing things now FIL has said he would rather move out than be there when she comes home if she is going to continue to carry on like this

[crow_noir]

Well good for FIL to realize that he deserves a better life. Good food and a clean house is a God given right, not a privilege.

He has tried every approach and even to the extent of going to the G. P. to see if he could get her signed in somewhere if FIL would agree and that was last Friday FIL and hubby were to meet wiht GP on Tues to arrange this but somethings are not meant to be so she wound up in hosp first with an injury. Her last words to FIL yesterday were cannot wait to get out gasping for a drink!!! She is really pushing things now FIL has said he would rather move out than be there when she comes home if she is going to continue to carry on like this

[jackmilliesmom]

She is in good form and had her first AA meeting and physiotherapy session yesterday, BIL drove to my house which is a good 3 hours from his to apologise in person to me yesterday evening - things are looking up but my guard is still up and will be for a long time.

[crow_noir]

Well, enjoy it while you can. Congrats to you and them.

At least enjoy the dream.

It'll give your nerves a chance to recoup.

*hugs*

She is in good form and had her first AA meeting and physiotherapy session yesterday, BIL drove to my house which is a good 3 hours from his to apologise in person to me yesterday evening - things are looking up but my guard is still up and will be for a long time.

[Queen of Poop]

You've done the right thing and hopefully the ungratefuls will see that in time. I stand behind you and will be at the ready to back you in a scuffle. I may be 5 feet and 100 lbs soaking wet, but I pack a whollop!! I am very, very proud of you, stand your ground, you're in the right!!!

[wombat2u2004]

Your MIL is angry with you because simply put....you have outdone her.
If she ever gets off the drink and up off her butt, then maybe she could keep some semblance of a clean home.....AND keep her husband fed.
Thats my feelings anyway mate.
But still....your FIL would appreciate your help, so keep doing it for his sake mate....don't worry about the sponge in the hospital.
Wom

[jackmilliesmom]

Not worried have received an irate phone call from BIL and told him where to get off and that there are two of them in that house and we have to look out for them both and make sure they have a comfortable clean home and plenty of nourishment to keep them healthy and satisfied for the remainder of their days.

Have decided to take a stand and not let them put me off I will be there for as long as they need me and when ready for me to step back I will do it.

[wombat2u2004]

Hmmmm....this BIL sounds like a nasty bit of work.
Why would he complain that you have actually cleaned the oldies house for them ????
Doesn't make much sense to me.
Wom

[jackmilliesmom]

He is just annoyed that he did not do it and that we got some praise for getting things done thats all but let him get annoyed I will not back down from a fight without leaving my mark - I can be tough when I need to be.

[wombat2u2004]

He's just jealous....eh ????
Anyway mate.....a swift slap on his left ear will shut him up...
Wom