Thanks, all.

If I was ill, the cats would be looked after no problem. BF is very organized about proper care for his dog. When I gave him an old wire catbrush, he used it on his bichon - and the pup loved it! That became a bonding thing, with Bailey looking fluffy and cute!

I know it is give and take, no question. I guess I am assessing what I am willing to give...and nothing's final yet.