Pet Honesty w. BF :-) Edited for clarity

[Catty1]

Sure. I have wanted to be clear with Grant about how I am attached to animals. Of course, if I am married, there will be mornings when Oscar will NOT be on the pillow!

But generally, this is one area where I will not change or 'give in' - I don't see my cats as 'just pets'. I never had a family, and BF has, so I guess pets were part of the picture.

He also doesn't bother taking his Bichon to the vet, as long as he is well and appears healthy.

I guess, to be specific, did I state my point of view appropriately? And his response right away that it was time to have dinner - I would guess that means he needs to think about this, if he thinks about it at all.

I guess I wonder too if this is can be a serious bone of contention in the future...is it worth making note of it under the 'would I marry this guy?' category.

Or is this single thing 'much ado about nothing'?

Thanks.

[moosmom]

Candace,

It sounds like BF's attention span needs a little "adjusting". Also, just remember, you don't know a person till ya live with 'em. And THAT comes from my Mom.

[Catty1]

Donna - I KNOW that. I was married once, very briefly. My ex was actually as cat-loving as I was! (HMMM should've kept him! )

With benefit of hindsight, I am wanting BF to be aware of these things about me. Don't want to shoot myself in the foot - but I want to be honest, and casual about it. This is me, that's all.

On some mornings when Oscar has decided to be REALLY adorable, I honestly think that marriage in and of itself is not a good idea for me.

No rush. BF did say he wanted to IM again tomorrow, so perhaps he will have a question or comment. He might want to process this for a bit.

[moosmom]

Donna - I KNOW that. I was married once, very briefly

Oh yeah, I forgot! You're handling it very well.

[Catty1]

Maybe once IS enough?

[G535]

You would also have to seriously consider how well he would look after your pets if you ever become ill and can't do it yourself. There's also the little things like making sure the doors are shut and the cats inside.

[ramanth]

Well, to be honest, Andy isn't into pets on the same level as I am. He loves them, of that I'm sure, but he wouldn't of made an account on PT if I hadn't pestered him. And even then, he's not on every day like I am. I'll point him towards threads once in awhile.

When I lived alone, the cats slept with me. Now they sleep in their own room seperate from the bedroom. Seeing as Andy is allergic, it's a small sacrifice I made. But that's what a marriage is about. Give and take.