Bon gets read by Nancy (Update #25)

[shais_mom]

Dunno ... I think she's being a bit harsh with Mark and Roxey.

Some of her points appear to be right-on - he may feel insecure, but you CAN work on that.

Ask her what BON would like you two to do,
and what changes he'd like to see made.
Maybe Bon could suggest some Family Activities that HE'd enjoy.

it isn't HER being harsh - its
what Bon is relaying to her.
Anna kept mentioning on Saturday that Roxey is Mark's best girl.
interesting tho how he visualizes you standing with him and Huney and Mark standing with Roxey...

[Kfamr]

Wow. Sure gave me goosebumps, especially the part where Angus came in.

[Catty1]

Craftlady also knows about natural calming remedies. Would even Rescue Remedy be too strong for him?

I liked the idea of asking Nancy what Bon would like to do, suggestions on how to make things better.

[anna_66]

Alright I must admit that I did chuckle just a little (not that any of this is funny), but is Roxey the "black mask dog?" And does she really not like him? I am pleased to know that my pretty little Huney girl has made him feel welcome.

Yep, it's Roxey. She didn't say that Roxey didn't like him but that she feels he just needs to "get over it!", Ya know like, he's a big boy he shouldn't be so scared of everything, big baby...stuff like that.
You'd never know the night I brought him home that Huney & him would be buds. She couldn't stand him! I'm just glad he has one true friend.

Phred,
Mark KNEW she would have something like that to say about him. He knows he raises his voice to him quite often and blames him for stuff like slobbering all over (big one of the problems-he can't help it but it's so nasty) and is going to work on being more patient and understanding with him.

Craftlady also knows about natural calming remedies. Would even Rescue Remedy be too strong for him?

I liked the idea of asking Nancy what Bon would like to do, suggestions on how to make things better.

I've heard of Rescue Remedy but never knew what it was (still don't-will look up) so I'm not sure if it would be too strong or not.
I'll have to pm Craftlady-thanks.

I too like the idea of asking her what Bon would like to do.

Robin & Staci, I think I will ask her if he likes company...especially Aunt Robin & Aunt Staci And you know that Kylie loves you, even if she doesn't show it...lol!

Jess, she actually compared him to her son. She said he is the same way but he can tell her what's wrong, where on the other hand Bon can't. I HATE that he will never be that bold and confident dog.

It really floored me when she told me about Angus. She had him down to a T. It makes me feel very good that he is here for Bon, I just want him to be happy and if being here does that then I'm thrilled. I will be having her do a reading on Angus since she's picked up on him so much (without a picture I might add)

I also had a couple more questions myself...

-How do I make him understand that I put him in his kennel to feed him for every ones safety, not because I don't trust him (I'm thinking this is why he feels I don't trust him completely)

-Does he feel better since we talked and know I'm not faking and love and trust him 100%

-Why does he insist on giving his paw when we consistently tell him no

If there is any other questions you all can think of please post them.

[krazyaboutkatz]

Thanks for sharing Nancy's reading of Bon with us. I've had her do some general readings on all 6 of my cats and also on my RB Pepper. She's such an amazing woman and has really helped me to understand my cats a lot better. I hope that things improve with Bon and I'm glad to hear that Angus is still around and that he helps to comfort Bon.

[Tollers-n-Dobes]

That's an amazing reading. I can't believe Angus showed up and she was able to tell you something about him too. Hopefully Bon will start feeling more comfortable soon, and understand how much he is loved!

I know how you're feeling with all of the fear stuff. Morgan is like that. The only time she ever has even an ounce of confidence is when Winston is around, otherwise, forget it.

[anna_66]

I emailed her a few questions...
When you were saying you think he doesn't trust me 100% now, could it possibly be because I put him in his kennel to eat instead of letting him outside with the girls (I feed raw). If so, could you convey to him or let me know how to tell him I don't do it because I don't trust him, I do it because I want everyone to be safe. Not only for us but for him as well.
And does he feel any better since we talked Sunday? And does he feel my husband acts any differently now? (he is really trying to be more patient and understanding)
And then just a couple of questions in general...
Why does he insist on giving his paw when we consistently tell him no
Is there anything he would like to do, anything that makes him happy
Does he like to be groomed
He's always slept with me in the morning when my husband has went to work, since the bite he hasn't...why?

She called me yesterday afternoon and we spoke...
As far as the feeding, it's got nothing to do with that at all. It's just he FEELS I don't trust him. Just a feeling, not a physical action.
Feels worry and distrust from me since the bite.
I was his anchor in life. Need to get that feeling back.

No difference since our talk, still very sad.
Issue with Mark is not a big deal, has just accepted him the way he is.
The paw, saw this right away. It's a reassurance compulsion, like a ritual or routine. It's reinforcement (do you love me, tell me you love me).
Nothing in particular he would like to do, likes to be home, home is comfort .
I could take him for walks just him and I but really doesn't want to go any where away from home.
Didn't get anything from the grooming question, just feels nails going down his back, he likes that.
The bed question, he feels on the outside now. Like I'm not comfortable with him (one good thing...he did come and sleep with me this morning)

I did order some essences from Green Hope Farm's Animal Wellness Collection
I picked out the ones I thought he would need (Anxiety, Caretaker, Neediness) and when I talked to them they agreed with those and added one more-Golden Armor (I couldn't find where it was on their site).
She said hopefully these will help him feel more comfortable and have less anxiety and worry. She didn't see him just feeling better on his own-without some help.
So I'm hoping that between the essence and my working with him he will start to feel better soon.

If you have time, could you say a little prayer for the both of us? thanx (and thanks for listening)

[Alysser]

I am seriously stunned after reading that. I had read about Angus in past threads, and that is amazing to me how she knew about him. I can't believe it. I really hope this has helped you with Poor Bon. I hope this can help him feel more comfortable with his family.

[lizbud]

Amazing reading there. Anna, I could really relate when you said about
Bon, "I HATE that he will never be that bold and confident dog." I feel the
same way about Smokey. I hate it for Smokey's sake, but also because
it was what I was used to with Buddy. Having Nancy read Smokey did give
me a lot to think about & a way to remember the differences that can a
big part of who each animal is. (Know what I mean?)

[cyber-sibes]

Interesting reading, Anna. Poor Bon, I felt so bad for him when she said he's a small dog in a big body. Just his size alone makes him a formidable force to others, especially when he does go after other dogs. I would never had imagined that it was out of being afraid of them! Now that you know more about his issues, you can work on specific things. Hopefully he'll feel more understood and his confidence level will go up.
As for Ms. Roxey and Mark...it doesn't take a psychic to see that she's Daddy's girl! ( joke) She's a very smart & perceptive girl, maybe if you talk to her about it, she'll mellow out a bit towards him. (((hugs))) to all your fluffies.

That is so awesome that Angus checked in with her too! Gives me goosebumps!

[tikeyas_mom]

Amazing reading there. Anna, I could really relate when you said about
Bon, "I HATE that he will never be that bold and confident dog." I feel the
same way about Smokey. I hate it for Smokey's sake, but also because
it was what I was used to with Buddy. Having Nancy read Smokey did give
me a lot to think about & a way to remember the differences that can a
big part of who each animal is. (Know what I mean?)

I can also really relate to that statement, Daisy has ZERO confidence. Like not an ounce of it.. It really concerns me.. I never imagined Bon would be a fearful dog, hes so large and proud looking in all his pics, I wonder why?.. Maybe his parents or one of them was the same way? It may have been passed down to Bon through his Genetics?

[gemini9961]

Anna that is amazing. I hope that this will shed some light on your situation. Poor boy.