Unfortunately, this is the attitude that a lot of farmer/country people have. To many, it's an animal, not a pet.Originally Posted by Toby's my baby
I asked him why he dumped him and he said, "well, I was gonna shoot him but I decided to just dump him and give him a chance to find a different home."
I grew up on a 100acre farm in the Pocono Mtns. here in PA, and thank god my father was not like that. He wanted to be a vet growing up, but quit school in order to keep the farm running and had to get a FT job to help support the family. So, even though he was a farmer, he still cared a lot about the pets and wasn't the typical Dutchman. My great grandmother, on the other hand, was a harsh harsh woman. My dad said he remembers when HIS hound dog didn't do what she wanted it to do, and wasn't hunting the way it was supposed to, she just shot it right there in front of him.
My father has always been a softy and if thinks there's a stray cat or dog outside of our house on the farm, he puts out bowls of food for it every day. My mother said she thinks at one point he was feeding groundhogs, raccoons and opossums, lol. He doesn't even go hunting anymore, and we only ever used the deer etc... for food, he never did it for sport. He hates when I tell rescue animal stories, he will just break down and cry over abused and neglected animals. If he and I were the ones who were living on the farm, and my mom wasn't around, I think we'd have tons of animals, lol.
Farming and people growing up from back then can have some real different attitudes from the way we do now, or like I said, even eachother. Some younger farmers still view animals as animals and do not get attached. Sad but that's the way it is.
I do hope your dad gets help for whatever it is that is bothering him... although I doubt he sounds like the kind who will go in and sit down and talk about his feelings to anyone, lol. Too emotional of a thing to do.. shows vulnerability.
I do hope things improve. What is the age of consent to be considered an adult in your state?? Maybe you could actually, on your own, petition to stay back for your (last??) year of highschool? If 16 or 17 is considered an adult, you can get court documents that will allow you to do that. That would bypass dad and all you would need would be a place to stay(like the aunt and uncle's place). Check it out. It might make your dad upset, and I have no idea how old you are (I saw your pics in one of the other threads and thought you were a college kid... so many kids look so much older than they are these days!!), but it's a thought.
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. Yes, I know, I'm younger. I can not emancipate until I am 16, and that is 6 months away, also I have to have my parents consent, they need to say in court that I can care for myself and all that. Neither of my parents would EVER agree to this, it is pretty much out of the question. I told my dad I wanted to change my guardianship over to someone else, and he just laughed and said that I couldn't. . . I don't know what else I can do about this. .
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