Have you had your birds since they were babies? If not maybe something happened to Sky before you got her that made her fearful. We have had our parakeet for a little more than a year now and it does take time and patience to get them used to handling. Since I clean the cage and put in the food and water everyday the bird is more comfortable with me and lets me pet him etc. My husband on the other hand is fine for the bird to talk to and whistle at but the bird always tries to peck at his hands! Another way you can get your bird to bathe is to use a small mist bottle and give him a gentle shower with it. That is what we do since our bird was too shy to use the bathtub we got him. Just give her time and she should get used to you. Good luck!