No-Name and stray cat *pictures* *UPDATE post 12**

[jennielynn1970]

Oh gosh... sounds like not a good situation for anyone right now at home! I'm so sorry!!

Can you go and live with mom?? I mean, she'd want to have what's best for your welfare, and if dad is refusing to do that, someone needs to know. Are you still in school?? Even if you're over 18 and in college, you should be able to talk to someone, but if you're in high school and he's your legal guardian, he is OBLIGATED to do what is best for your health and welfare (and your mental health is included in that).

If you need, I can talk to our counselors at school to see what could be done in your state, and what your rights as a minor, and his responsibilities as a guardian are. Just so you know what you are entitled to. You need to do what is best for you and your sister.

I really hope that there will be something you can do. I know you're a minor, but dad has to provide for you not just with food, clothes and a roof over your head. It goes way beyond that. If you need help, please let us know and we'll do what we can on our ends, even if it's just moral support and getting you info you need so you can let dad know he's not doing what he should be.

BIG HUGS to you sweetie...

[Toby's my baby]

Thanks everyone. My parents are not divorced or seperated, our whole family is in the process of moving. My mom had to move down there sooner because her job started a couple of weeks ago. I still have horse shows and other things to do here in Minnesota this summer, so my dad, sister, and I decided to stay here until school starts again in the fall. I am very angry and having a hard time with both of my parents at the moment. I do NOT want to move to Arizona at all, I do not think any teenager should be forced to leave there school, friends and family when they are almost out of high school. I am not really getting along with either of my parents, but my mom and I are pretty close and I still talk to her every night, so I think our relationship is fine even though I am angry with her. My dad and I used to be very close, but in the last couple years he hasn't wanted to let go and let me grow up, and I've grown up faster than he probably wanted me too. I'm going through the "rebelious" stage, and always feel like I just want to get out and go to a party or sneak out of the house. I have always been the "perfect child." I've never been to a party before, never even taken a sip of a beer, smoked or any of that (which is probably good) but it's getting to me, and I'm in the stage where I just want to try it (not smoking or any of that, but just GOING to a party). My dad is very strict, he won't let me do hardly anything. The other day he let me going tubbing with a couple friends and I just about fell over. I really wish I could switch my gaurdianship over to my aunt and uncle or SOMEONE else, but I don't even know if you can do that if my parents are actually harming me or doing anything wrong really... ?

[Catty1]

ooohkay, I remember this now...you have posted about it in General - I didn't make the connection! Sorry!

I recall you saying then that you might be able to do your last year of school there and stay at your aunt's?

I would think your family should be ok with you having some time to yourself. Is your aunt in pretty good shape health-wise?

On the other hand - you might feel a lot better after the move. Either way - I hope you can go to see a counsellor at the school; I am sure you don't need a parent's permission for that (I never did ).

My prayers that everything works out the way it is supposed to - it will.

*hugs*

[Toby's my baby]

Thank you

The lady my dad took the cat from is not MY aunt its my dad's. So she's my great aunt, and she is not in good shape, she needs to be in a nursing home.

I would be staying with my aunt and uncle, my dad's brother. I've talked to my parents about this and they refuse to let me stay here. They said I have to try living in Arizona for a year and then we will see after that. I'm saving all my money from work this summer, and selling my horse so I can come back often to see my family, friends, and boyfriend. I don't know if the dogs are comming with yet. My grandpa's dog was hit by a car 3 weeks ago, and now he wants to keep Maggie and Autumn. I really don't want to leave them behind, but my grandpa loves them dearly (he lives with us, but is not moving) and he wants to keep them here. A part of me wants to let them stay here, because when we move they would have to be locked up a lot when we aren't home, right now, the are NEVER locked up because someone is always here. But I love them so much and I don't want to leave them here either. I'm so confused on what to do with them.

ugg.. this is so stressfull. . i'm definently going to the school counsilor once school starts..

[Toby's my baby]

Also... I went to Grand Forks today, but unfortunatly it was with my dad. I asked to go look for no-name but he refused. He did dump him in the trailer court by the interstate, I know that.

I asked him why he dumped him and he said, "well, I was gonna shoot him but I decided to just dump him and give him a chance to find a different home."

[Pawla]

YOUR DAD NEEDS HELP!!! How can someone be such an @##? I wish you could stay with your grandfather.

[jennielynn1970]

I asked him why he dumped him and he said, "well, I was gonna shoot him but I decided to just dump him and give him a chance to find a different home."

Unfortunately, this is the attitude that a lot of farmer/country people have. To many, it's an animal, not a pet.

I grew up on a 100acre farm in the Pocono Mtns. here in PA, and thank god my father was not like that. He wanted to be a vet growing up, but quit school in order to keep the farm running and had to get a FT job to help support the family. So, even though he was a farmer, he still cared a lot about the pets and wasn't the typical Dutchman. My great grandmother, on the other hand, was a harsh harsh woman. My dad said he remembers when HIS hound dog didn't do what she wanted it to do, and wasn't hunting the way it was supposed to, she just shot it right there in front of him.

My father has always been a softy and if thinks there's a stray cat or dog outside of our house on the farm, he puts out bowls of food for it every day. My mother said she thinks at one point he was feeding groundhogs, raccoons and opossums, lol. He doesn't even go hunting anymore, and we only ever used the deer etc... for food, he never did it for sport. He hates when I tell rescue animal stories, he will just break down and cry over abused and neglected animals. If he and I were the ones who were living on the farm, and my mom wasn't around, I think we'd have tons of animals, lol.

Farming and people growing up from back then can have some real different attitudes from the way we do now, or like I said, even eachother. Some younger farmers still view animals as animals and do not get attached. Sad but that's the way it is.

I do hope your dad gets help for whatever it is that is bothering him... although I doubt he sounds like the kind who will go in and sit down and talk about his feelings to anyone, lol. Too emotional of a thing to do.. shows vulnerability.

I do hope things improve. What is the age of consent to be considered an adult in your state?? Maybe you could actually, on your own, petition to stay back for your (last??) year of highschool? If 16 or 17 is considered an adult, you can get court documents that will allow you to do that. That would bypass dad and all you would need would be a place to stay(like the aunt and uncle's place). Check it out. It might make your dad upset, and I have no idea how old you are (I saw your pics in one of the other threads and thought you were a college kid... so many kids look so much older than they are these days!!), but it's a thought.

[catmandu]

I Hate To See People Not Realize That Animals Are Our Fellow Inhabitants Of This Planet Not Our Slaves.
I Hope That Your Dad Gets Dumped Into A Nursing Home When He Gets Older And Has To Live In Squalor.
Thats Not A Good Thought But Anyone Who Who Dump A Cat Deserves That.
We Are Praying That You Are Independant Soon And Can Help As Many Strays As Possible.