No-Name and stray cat *pictures* *UPDATE post 12**

[Don Juan's mom]

Is your dad aware that you might be choosing a nursing home for him one of these days?

Prayers from sunny San Jose that No Name is found safe and sound.

Liz

[BC_MoM]

I'll probably be going to Grand Forks in two weeks to pick up some Border Collies for rescue. Not sure if I could look into this cat thing or not... I'm going down with dog people.

Poor kitty....
I know how you feel, my Dad can sometimes get like that too.. but I don't believe he would do anything like this. He wouldn't waste the gas on it.

[Toby's my baby]

The cats real name is Friskies, but, when I tried to call him that he never responded, so I dont think it will work. He always came better if you just said, "here kitty!" so I dont know.

My dad is not getting help, but IMO he should. There is no way he ever would though, he won't even let me get help. I was having some problems a year ago, and I went to the doctor, and he said I needed to start going to a psyciatrist. My dad refused to let me go, even though I asked him to bring me. I'm having hard times now dealing with moving to Arizona, and just being a teenager, and I feel like I can't go anywhere to get help. Everytime I try to talk to my dad or mom about it, my dad buts in and it all ruptures into a huge fight.

Thank you so much Candace for everything you have done. You are a savior. You have done so much to try and rescue this poor guy, and you have a huge heart. I am very greatful and I'm sure No-name is too. I don't think there is much else anyone can do other than hope that he has been found and is in a good home with someone who loves him and will keep him forever.

[Catty1]

So...are you thinking of moving to Arizona?

I think your mom would have to get some legal proceedings going.

I mean - what judge would have awarded custody to your dad? How did you and your sister wind up staying there? (PM me this if it's too personal.)

You CAN go for help. I don't know if you are of legal age; if you are not, I suggest you tell your doctor what happened. He or she is then bound to report that you are not getting good care with your dad. Your dad has to be reported. I'm sorry - but that is the way it seems. He is being a poor parent. Or Children's Aid (they help teens too)

I know you have your horses and everything there. Please remember - as much as you love them, you can get another horse one day.

You can't buy another you, or another sister.

[momcat]

Hi TMB, Are you thinking about moving to Arizona? As far as any legal implications, are you with your Dad by court order? If so or if not, your Mom might have to petition the court for legal custody. If this is a possibility, I strongly suggest that your Mom contact a lawyer to see where you both stand legally and what other legal options might be available. If she can't afford a lawyer, let me know because I can find a contact for her regardless of what state she lives in through my job. Family laws vary from state to state.
How sad that your folks refuse to allow counseling for you. Is there another adult you could talk to? A trusted adult, a teacher, your minister, parent of a friend? Prayers were offered for you and No-Name during church this morning.

[jennielynn1970]

Oh gosh... sounds like not a good situation for anyone right now at home! I'm so sorry!!

Can you go and live with mom?? I mean, she'd want to have what's best for your welfare, and if dad is refusing to do that, someone needs to know. Are you still in school?? Even if you're over 18 and in college, you should be able to talk to someone, but if you're in high school and he's your legal guardian, he is OBLIGATED to do what is best for your health and welfare (and your mental health is included in that).

If you need, I can talk to our counselors at school to see what could be done in your state, and what your rights as a minor, and his responsibilities as a guardian are. Just so you know what you are entitled to. You need to do what is best for you and your sister.

I really hope that there will be something you can do. I know you're a minor, but dad has to provide for you not just with food, clothes and a roof over your head. It goes way beyond that. If you need help, please let us know and we'll do what we can on our ends, even if it's just moral support and getting you info you need so you can let dad know he's not doing what he should be.

BIG HUGS to you sweetie...

[Toby's my baby]

Thanks everyone. My parents are not divorced or seperated, our whole family is in the process of moving. My mom had to move down there sooner because her job started a couple of weeks ago. I still have horse shows and other things to do here in Minnesota this summer, so my dad, sister, and I decided to stay here until school starts again in the fall. I am very angry and having a hard time with both of my parents at the moment. I do NOT want to move to Arizona at all, I do not think any teenager should be forced to leave there school, friends and family when they are almost out of high school. I am not really getting along with either of my parents, but my mom and I are pretty close and I still talk to her every night, so I think our relationship is fine even though I am angry with her. My dad and I used to be very close, but in the last couple years he hasn't wanted to let go and let me grow up, and I've grown up faster than he probably wanted me too. I'm going through the "rebelious" stage, and always feel like I just want to get out and go to a party or sneak out of the house. I have always been the "perfect child." I've never been to a party before, never even taken a sip of a beer, smoked or any of that (which is probably good) but it's getting to me, and I'm in the stage where I just want to try it (not smoking or any of that, but just GOING to a party). My dad is very strict, he won't let me do hardly anything. The other day he let me going tubbing with a couple friends and I just about fell over. I really wish I could switch my gaurdianship over to my aunt and uncle or SOMEONE else, but I don't even know if you can do that if my parents are actually harming me or doing anything wrong really... ?