When to leave an abusive husband?

[Catsnclay]

She kept telling me that had she stop talking back at him & left the room before he could get to the point of hitting her, she could have prevented it from happening. She thinks she must have provoked him somehow, otherwise he wouldn't be hurting her.

Ah...........the common misconseption of a battered person: "If only I had............"

No matter how hard you try, it will never be good enough for them.

She needs to get out now, and fast.

[Marigold2]

I am sorry to hear of your friends pain. In all my years I have never heard of an abusive husband or wife stopping the abuse. The only way I have ever heard of it ending is one one or both are dead. Lets hope your friends wises up and leaves today.

[king2005]

My dad wasn't always the greatest dad.. when he got mad, he got really mad.. he never hit us, but his yelling was scary...

He didn't know his anger was out of control, until mom kicked him out... He went to the dr. for help & they gave him some meds to calm him down... they worked for a few years, then he started again.. I freaked on him & called him a psycho... He went back to the dr. & has been the bestest dad in the world!!!

Sometimes nice people have something loose in their heads that can be fixed with medication...

Its the people who are always mean are the ones that medication wont help.

Pass this on to her, as it might be the cure to his strange temper.