I'll bet she's emotionally abused from the sound of it. I've experienced it and it's horrible. They do like to isolate you and it also beats down your self esteem. He might even be physical with her or others. My ex beat on Duke but not me. It was a horrible time in my life. But I also agree that she has to make the decision she's had enough. Until then, you can't help her. It didn't take me long to decide I'd had it. The guy sounds horrible. No wonder you only want to talk to her while she's at work. That's probably the only freedom she has. I was hardly allowed to go anywhere by myself. I hope she decides on a better life soon.