This thread is making me laugh.

To begin with, nope, I have never in my life heard of anything called 'Stag and Doe's' (besides the deer of course).

Second, I'm with the people who think its ridiculous.
Most people get married. Its a new phase in life. You go from single-hood, to becoming a couple, to starting a new home, new family, etc. HOWEVER, it IS a part of life for most people, and though it is a big deal, getting married, its not SUCH a big deal that one would need odd parties like this.

My idea of a wedding? Have a ceremony, then a reception where you invite family/friends. Loved ones bring gifts, or money, or gift cards...whatever, for the couple.

I never had to host a party to get money to help me start out my life before my wedding. I never had to ask for money, or anything. I did not work, and my hubby had only JUST started working full-time. The only thing we requested on our wedding invitation cards was that we get no 'boxed' gifts...only for the reason that if 200 people bring boxed gifts, it would be VERY difficult to take them home after the party, AND...you might get 10 or 15 of the same thing. Most of the guests brought either gift cards or money, and some brought jewelry. I did get some lovely boxed gifts from very close friends, but they came and brought it home for me before the party. Very thoughtful of them. We never asked for money, or hosted a party for money, and would've been fine and happy with our wedding even if everyone brought nothing, however, we got about $7000 cash in gifts, and $2000 worth of gift cards. I was SO not expecting that, but with all my aunts and uncles overseas sending $500 each, it all added up.

My point in saying this is only that, You do not need to host such a party where everyone is 'expected' to bring money. If you are in need, God will provide for you. We didn't need, want, ask for money, but God still provided us with it, through the kind and thoughtful hearts of our family and friends. I'm not a person who likes taking money from people or expecting money from people. If someone gives as a gift with no expectations from the other side, it warms one's heart. If someone gives because they're expected to, or because 'everyone's giving'...I'd rather not have such money at all. I don't like the idea for two main reasons. #1. It looks like you're asking for money. #2. I get sick and tired of parties and all the work that goes along with it, so for a wedding, the ceremony and the reception are more than enough. Selling tickets to friends to attend your party? That is just soooo funny to me.

That being said, to each his own. I had never heard of such a party, and don't care about it either way. Whatever makes you happy.