Stag and Doe's

[Cataholic]

The same could be said in reference to you.... it wasn't said to "scare" you..... it was simply to point out that others have certainly noticed the p!ss poor attitude. I mean when you get uptight over talk about a party..... you might be overreacting JUST a smidge.

Look, I can't be any more direct. I could not care any less what you OR your husband thinks of me anymore than I would some drunk that I see on the street corner.

I am not overreacting about anything. BUT, to not comment on it when you asked for an opinion? Hah. If you don't want to know, don't ask. Simple, dimple.

What I should have put, originally, was this: I think anyone that asks for money in this context is classless and without taste, manners or decorum. BUT, I don't know people like this, IRL, so, I really don't care. Do it. Invite all your friends!

Get on over yourself. Preggo or not, you are so ODD!

[sparks19]

Look, I can't be any more direct. I could not care any less what you OR your husband thinks of me anymore than I would some drunk that I see on the street corner.

I am not overreacting about anything. BUT, to not comment on it when you asked for an opinion? Hah. If you don't want to know, don't ask. Simple, dimple.

What I should have put, originally, was this: I think anyone that asks for money in this context is classless and without taste, manners or decorum. BUT, I don't know people like this, IRL, so, I really don't care. Do it. Invite all your friends!

Get on over yourself. Preggo or not, you are so ODD!

LOL YOu crack me up....

No one said you should care.... and you really shouldn't. I am not naive enough to believe that everyone everywhere will like me nor will I lose any sleep if they don't.

And for the record I didn't ask for an opinion.... I asked if it was ever heard of where you are from because I thought everyone had them and that it was not just an Ontario thing. I didn't not ask for a b!tch fest about what you think about it. I simply wanted to know if you have ever heard of one.... simple as that... apparently not so simple for you. It seems that you and your band of not-so-merry men only come to p!ss and moan about stuff.... nothing lighthearted ever comes out on here from you.... hence your reputation for over reacting to threads that are meant to be fun. If you want to complain and be miserable.... do so in your own threads. Don't ruin a perfectly good party thread because you are grumpy.


Many people were able to carry on this thread with good humor and fun (which was it's intention).... it's too bad you missed out on that.

[Edwina's Secretary]

It seems that you and your band of not-so-merry men

Cataholic...do you have a band of men you haven't been telling me about??? Oh please do dish!

[sparks19]

Cataholic...do you have a band of men you haven't been telling me about??? Oh please do dish!

Perhaps I should correct myself and say "band of not-so-merry women" but I figured men was easy enough to figure out

[Cataholic]

Cataholic...do you have a band of men you haven't been telling me about??? Oh please do dish!

It is so VERY lovely that I have kept it all a secret! Nights of dancing, days of lounging....ah....a band of VERY merry men

[Pawsitive Thinking]

It is so VERY lovely that I have kept it all a secret! Nights of dancing, days of lounging....ah....a band of VERY merry men

Where do you find the energy?

[Edwina's Secretary]

It is so VERY lovely that I have kept it all a secret! Nights of dancing, days of lounging....ah....a band of VERY merry men

And you can tell men from women! Well done!

[Cataholic]

Yup, see? I have had a real man to compare to!!!

[lizbud]

Get on over yourself. Preggo or not, you are so ODD!

Who is it that has a saying in their signature line about canada,
I think. "Where the odds are good, but the goods are odd" ?

It's always given me a chuckle.

[Glacier]

Who is it that has a saying in their signature line about canada,
I think. "Where the odds are good, but the goods are odd" ?

It's always given me a chuckle.

That's kuhio. It's about Alaskan men!

I think these parties are mainly an Ontario thing. I've lived in Saskatchewan, Alberta and the Yukon--never heard of them. A stag around here is the engaged guy and all his buddies getting together for a big drunken party. I had a stagette--which was far more fun than any bridal shower I've ever attended! I've got the pictures to prove it and no, you can't see them!

[Cinder & Smoke]

I had a stagette --
which was far more fun than any bridal shower I've ever attended!

I've got the pictures to prove it and no, you can't see them!

OMG!

Our Yukon Girl has a PAST!

[popcornbird]

This thread is making me laugh.

To begin with, nope, I have never in my life heard of anything called 'Stag and Doe's' (besides the deer of course).

Second, I'm with the people who think its ridiculous.
Most people get married. Its a new phase in life. You go from single-hood, to becoming a couple, to starting a new home, new family, etc. HOWEVER, it IS a part of life for most people, and though it is a big deal, getting married, its not SUCH a big deal that one would need odd parties like this.

My idea of a wedding? Have a ceremony, then a reception where you invite family/friends. Loved ones bring gifts, or money, or gift cards...whatever, for the couple.

I never had to host a party to get money to help me start out my life before my wedding. I never had to ask for money, or anything. I did not work, and my hubby had only JUST started working full-time. The only thing we requested on our wedding invitation cards was that we get no 'boxed' gifts...only for the reason that if 200 people bring boxed gifts, it would be VERY difficult to take them home after the party, AND...you might get 10 or 15 of the same thing. Most of the guests brought either gift cards or money, and some brought jewelry. I did get some lovely boxed gifts from very close friends, but they came and brought it home for me before the party. Very thoughtful of them. We never asked for money, or hosted a party for money, and would've been fine and happy with our wedding even if everyone brought nothing, however, we got about $7000 cash in gifts, and $2000 worth of gift cards. I was SO not expecting that, but with all my aunts and uncles overseas sending $500 each, it all added up.

My point in saying this is only that, You do not need to host such a party where everyone is 'expected' to bring money. If you are in need, God will provide for you. We didn't need, want, ask for money, but God still provided us with it, through the kind and thoughtful hearts of our family and friends. I'm not a person who likes taking money from people or expecting money from people. If someone gives as a gift with no expectations from the other side, it warms one's heart. If someone gives because they're expected to, or because 'everyone's giving'...I'd rather not have such money at all. I don't like the idea for two main reasons. #1. It looks like you're asking for money. #2. I get sick and tired of parties and all the work that goes along with it, so for a wedding, the ceremony and the reception are more than enough. Selling tickets to friends to attend your party? That is just soooo funny to me.

That being said, to each his own. I had never heard of such a party, and don't care about it either way. Whatever makes you happy.

[sparks19]

I had a stagette--which was far more fun than any bridal shower I've ever attended! I've got the pictures to prove it and no, you can't see them!

Do you have Bridal showers out there? I really can't ever recall anyone I know having one lol.

and that sounds scandalous At my step sisters bachelorette party I made every guy sitting at the bar buy her a flower for her last night lol.

Is it common where you are to have the bachelorette party the night before the wedding? it seems to be quite common with people I know lol and seems like a less than stellar plan.... I have seen more than one bride walk down the aisle with a hangover lol. of course the groom is not in any better shape. Some people have gotten wise and planned it for the weekend before lol.

But more often than not.... the stag and doe money results in an open bar at the reception. Of course I will not be partaking in any of that.... but I'm sure I wouldn't have broke the bank with my water on the rocks that i will be drinking all night LOL

Popcornbird.... it is not that they NEED the money.... and they rarely make anything more than perhaps a few hundred bucks.... more than anything it is really just an excuse to have a party (which we are always looking for an excuse up there lol) and to make your money back for all the money you put into the party.... and if you do make any money at all it usually goes towards having an open bar at the reception with the weddings I have been to. by the time you have the stag and doe the wedding is usually already paid for if you are budgeting correctly..... but in most cases of the weddings I went to they already had a home that they had been living in for quite some time..... my brother and his wife still live in that same home 10 years and 4 kids later.... they are in need of a new house though since I think they have made all the additions they can(home wise and family wise lol). They couldn't have fit more stuff (gifts from the wedding) into that house at the time and I really don't know how they manage to fit enough stuff for 4 kiddies in their either..... but all the money they received went towards alterations on the house for their impending family (it started out as a one floor house with two bedrooms, a kitchen, a living room, and a bathroom.... it is now a 4 bedroom house with a living room, a family room, bathroom and kitchen. but the house is still the same size.)

but it's mainly a party for everyone that will not be at the wedding or reception.

[Glacier]

Do you have Bridal showers out there? I really can't ever recall anyone I know having one lol.

and that sounds scandalous At my step sisters bachelorette party I made every guy sitting at the bar buy her a flower for her last night lol.

Is it common where you are to have the bachelorette party the night before the wedding? .

Sometimes. Mine was combined. We had a nice dinner early in the evening with some gifts. The friend who organized everything picked a kitchen gadget gift theme. I love gadgets! There were a few racy/naughty gifts thrown in as well. After dinner was basically drunken girls night out at my favorite bar. Can't remember the last time I was in a bar, but at one point in my life, I picked my apartment by it's proximity to the Ranchman's!(in Calgary)

I've never heard of having the party the night before the wedding. It's usually a couple weeks before. Mine was on a random Saturday night since I wouldn't tell anyone when the actual wedding was. People knew we were engaged, but we eloped for the actual wedding.

It wasn't totally scandalous, but it was fun and certainly not any stories I'll be sharing with my Mother! There are some things Mom never needs to know.

Phred...yup, I have a past! I read something that said basically every woman should have a past she's content to leave behind, but looking forward to telling the stories of when she's an old lady. That's about right for mine!

Where I grew up, couples often had "socials" before their weddings. It was basically a pot-luck dinner and a couple's shower combined. Not really a party, but a type of pre-wedding celebration.

[Kfamr]

What I find ridiculous about this thread, not the idea of a "Stag and Doe party", the fact that two people who have been here a little over a year are make such statements about two members who have been here for YEARS.

Three letters for you... WTF?!?