Robilee - get a lawyer AT ONCE. I am sure there are one or two in your congregation, or your pastor can recommend one.

Do that now. And write down everything Alden has done - bank account #, what the withdrawl was, everything. Keep a record - this will be useful because you will be upset for a while and it will be hard to keep everything clear.

I know it is HARD to do practical things - but you have to protect yourself and the kids.

HUGS!