Stag and Doe's

[Cataholic]

You throw a party to raise money for yourself? Like a fundraiser or a benefit? Hmmm....that sounds odd to me, no matter what you call it.

[king2005]

You throw a party to raise money for yourself? Like a fundraiser or a benefit? Hmmm....that sounds odd to me, no matter what you call it.

Think of it more as a fun get together party, where people leave money, or play games that involve money & give it to the soon to be wedded, so things will be a little bit easier on them. Most people use it for their honeymoon. Its not a lot of money, maybe a couple hundred $ to a grand, all depending on how many people show up... My sister gave 50.00

[Cataholic]

Think of it more as a fun get together party, where people leave money, or play games that involve money & give it to the soon to be wedded, so things will be a little bit easier on them. Most people use it for their honeymoon. Its not a lot of money, maybe a couple hundred $ to a grand, all depending on how many people show up... My sister gave 50.00

LOL. I am so old. I thought Bachlorette/Bachelor parties were those last parties of singledom, where all the friends got together and drank too much.

To think that somehow I would be funding someone's wedding, unless I was the parent, is kind of crazy to me. If these people need funding, shouldn't they hook up with a financial planner rather than a spouse?

BUT, to show that I CAN change with the times, I am willing to ask for all financial contributions to be sent to my home, immediately, as I might get married one day. Please pm me for my address.

[Edwina's Secretary]

I once was invited to a wedding. I was asked by another invitee if I would be giving "an envelope." She cleared up my confusion by explaining you should, in addition to a gift, give an envelope with cash to cover the cost of the dinner.

I have never been invited to a party and been asked to pass cash (small unmarked bills perhaps?? plain envelope??) to cover the cost of my entertainment.

I remain shocked....

[Cataholic]

ES- Do I owe you money for the festivities in the summer of '04? I did eat alot.......

[Edwina's Secretary]

ES- Do I owe you money for the festivities in the summer of '04? I did eat alot.......

Did you miss the collection plate by the back gate?

[Cataholic]

Oh, Heck! I thought that was to used as my gas money back home!

[king2005]

LOL

I guess its just something we do up here. You do not HAVE to give money at these functions. I know if I ever get married, I will not need any gifts, as I already own just about everything I need to live in a house (full kitchen, yay me!)... But giving $ would help out a lot... so chances are this tradition started, when people like me were getting married, so they have money parties instead of gift parties...

I hope that made sence lol

[Blue_Frog]

Well, heres how the last couple of weddings went --

The last one had a stag-n-doe as one party, and not separate ones. The party was run by some of the friends as a way to help them raise money for the wedding -- this was our way, as their friends, to help them to get married without having to go into debt to do it. I suspect it may also be a way for either/both the bride and groom to avoid going to the 'peelers instead *lol* There was limited funds for both families, and it made it easier on the bride and groom to help out.

The one before that was more of the standard turn of events - 2 bridal showers (one run by friends, and one run by family), a stagette party where everyone went out drinking, and a stag party where who only knows (or really wants to know ) what the guys got up to. Both families covered most of the wedding expenses.

For me, presents are for showers. For the wedding itself, I always bring a card with money in it, generally between 100-150 each for me and my date. Help to cover the expenses and such, but not a present to the wedding. If someone told me that i needed/had to bring both a present and money to the wedding, i'd prolly tell them where to go


edit: the smiley was supposed to be a rolling-eyes face aimed at what boys do at bachelor parties.

[catlover4ever]

My husband's sister and future husband had a "Jack and Jill", sort of like a stag and doe. You had to pay for your ticket ($25.00) each person and the proceeds went to the couple to use as they saw fit.

When I got married I had a "Shower" and my husband had a "Stag".

[Cataholic]

BF- WOW. You are a generous person, truly.

I can't really say that I am familiar with these sort of 'parties'. IMO, at a minimum, they should be encaptioned 'fundraisers'. Truly, though, these people should be rethinking their priorities. Why enter into a 'new' life when they can't afford it? There are lots of things I want, and don't want to go into debt for. New house, new car, pay off my student loans, upgrade my wardrobe, etc. But, I can't afford it. So, I wait. Or, do without. Or, modify.

To me, this is just one of the areas of trouble with today's 'youth'. (I know, I know, I am once again knocking the younger set). The entitlement theory is a tough one to survive on....

[Mad Mags Moo]

We have Stag and Hen Parties!
Stags are the groom and his mates - they go out get drunk, usually go and get a stripper or 2!! then feel like crap the next day!
Hen parties are for the girlies and usually get all dressed up - L plates on the bride to be! Get drunk, see men strip then go home and party!!
On the Scottish Islands weddings can and do last for at least a week before and after!!!! Scots know how to put on a good do!!!!

[sparks19]

We have Stag and Hen Parties!
Stags are the groom and his mates - they go out get drunk, usually go and get a stripper or 2!! then feel like crap the next day!
Hen parties are for the girlies and usually get all dressed up - L plates on the bride to be! Get drunk, see men strip then go home and party!!
On the Scottish Islands weddings can and do last for at least a week before and after!!!! Scots know how to put on a good do!!!!

L Plates? what's that?

a week before and after what do you do for all that time..... That could end in one mean hangover lol

[Mad Mags Moo]

L Plates? what's that?

a week before and after what do you do for all that time..... That could end in one mean hangover lol

L plates are put on cars when people are learning to drive in the UK - its a joke of sorts saying that bride to be is a learner!!!

Yep and funerals are just as bad - on the islands that is - can last up to a week after the burial or cremation!

[Puckstop31]

To think that somehow I would be funding someone's wedding, unless I was the parent, is kind of crazy to me. If these people need funding, shouldn't they hook up with a financial planner rather than a spouse?

Give me a freaking break... PLEASE. The amount of money raised at these things covers the cost of all the money spent to put the thing on with a few bucks to spare...

Besides, what newly wed couple could not use a couple of extra bucks for the honeymoon?

BUT, to show that I CAN change with the times, I am willing to ask for all financial contributions to be sent to my home, immediately, as I might get married one day. Please pm me for my address.

With an attitude like above... I doubt it.