Stag and Doe's

[king2005]

I mean no offence, but I busted a gut when I read what RedHedd & Karen posted

I thought everyone know what that was! Wow learn something new everyday

I've never been to one though. Not sure if I ever will get to go to one. No one I know is in that kind of relationship.

[Cataholic]

You throw a party to raise money for yourself? Like a fundraiser or a benefit? Hmmm....that sounds odd to me, no matter what you call it.

[king2005]

You throw a party to raise money for yourself? Like a fundraiser or a benefit? Hmmm....that sounds odd to me, no matter what you call it.

Think of it more as a fun get together party, where people leave money, or play games that involve money & give it to the soon to be wedded, so things will be a little bit easier on them. Most people use it for their honeymoon. Its not a lot of money, maybe a couple hundred $ to a grand, all depending on how many people show up... My sister gave 50.00

[Cataholic]

Think of it more as a fun get together party, where people leave money, or play games that involve money & give it to the soon to be wedded, so things will be a little bit easier on them. Most people use it for their honeymoon. Its not a lot of money, maybe a couple hundred $ to a grand, all depending on how many people show up... My sister gave 50.00

LOL. I am so old. I thought Bachlorette/Bachelor parties were those last parties of singledom, where all the friends got together and drank too much.

To think that somehow I would be funding someone's wedding, unless I was the parent, is kind of crazy to me. If these people need funding, shouldn't they hook up with a financial planner rather than a spouse?

BUT, to show that I CAN change with the times, I am willing to ask for all financial contributions to be sent to my home, immediately, as I might get married one day. Please pm me for my address.

[Edwina's Secretary]

I once was invited to a wedding. I was asked by another invitee if I would be giving "an envelope." She cleared up my confusion by explaining you should, in addition to a gift, give an envelope with cash to cover the cost of the dinner.

I have never been invited to a party and been asked to pass cash (small unmarked bills perhaps?? plain envelope??) to cover the cost of my entertainment.

I remain shocked....

[Cataholic]

ES- Do I owe you money for the festivities in the summer of '04? I did eat alot.......

[Edwina's Secretary]

ES- Do I owe you money for the festivities in the summer of '04? I did eat alot.......

Did you miss the collection plate by the back gate?

[Blue_Frog]

Well, heres how the last couple of weddings went --

The last one had a stag-n-doe as one party, and not separate ones. The party was run by some of the friends as a way to help them raise money for the wedding -- this was our way, as their friends, to help them to get married without having to go into debt to do it. I suspect it may also be a way for either/both the bride and groom to avoid going to the 'peelers instead *lol* There was limited funds for both families, and it made it easier on the bride and groom to help out.

The one before that was more of the standard turn of events - 2 bridal showers (one run by friends, and one run by family), a stagette party where everyone went out drinking, and a stag party where who only knows (or really wants to know ) what the guys got up to. Both families covered most of the wedding expenses.

For me, presents are for showers. For the wedding itself, I always bring a card with money in it, generally between 100-150 each for me and my date. Help to cover the expenses and such, but not a present to the wedding. If someone told me that i needed/had to bring both a present and money to the wedding, i'd prolly tell them where to go


edit: the smiley was supposed to be a rolling-eyes face aimed at what boys do at bachelor parties.

[Mad Mags Moo]

We have Stag and Hen Parties!
Stags are the groom and his mates - they go out get drunk, usually go and get a stripper or 2!! then feel like crap the next day!
Hen parties are for the girlies and usually get all dressed up - L plates on the bride to be! Get drunk, see men strip then go home and party!!
On the Scottish Islands weddings can and do last for at least a week before and after!!!! Scots know how to put on a good do!!!!

[sparks19]

We have Stag and Hen Parties!
Stags are the groom and his mates - they go out get drunk, usually go and get a stripper or 2!! then feel like crap the next day!
Hen parties are for the girlies and usually get all dressed up - L plates on the bride to be! Get drunk, see men strip then go home and party!!
On the Scottish Islands weddings can and do last for at least a week before and after!!!! Scots know how to put on a good do!!!!

L Plates? what's that?

a week before and after what do you do for all that time..... That could end in one mean hangover lol

[Puckstop31]

To think that somehow I would be funding someone's wedding, unless I was the parent, is kind of crazy to me. If these people need funding, shouldn't they hook up with a financial planner rather than a spouse?

Give me a freaking break... PLEASE. The amount of money raised at these things covers the cost of all the money spent to put the thing on with a few bucks to spare...

Besides, what newly wed couple could not use a couple of extra bucks for the honeymoon?

BUT, to show that I CAN change with the times, I am willing to ask for all financial contributions to be sent to my home, immediately, as I might get married one day. Please pm me for my address.

With an attitude like above... I doubt it.

[Cataholic]

Give me a freaking break... PLEASE. The amount of money raised at these things covers the cost of all the money spent to put the thing on with a few bucks to spare...

Besides, what newly wed couple could not use a couple of extra bucks for the honeymoon?

With an attitude like above... I doubt it.

Well, why hold my breath? You are already taken.

As stated, I could use a few bucks, too. Please, forward the money to me. Though, it does feel uncomfortable to ask for money....seeing that you are not a bank or other credit extender. But, if others can ask, and feel no shame, sign me up!

[sparks19]

LOL well Jeez Maybe I shouldn't include a gift registry for my baby shower.... I would hate for people to think they are funding my baby and that I need a financial advisor instead of a baby lol.

But if you really feel that strongly about friends throwing a party and supplying the alcohol, food, dj, and hall and prizes and simply inviting you to a party that has an admission charge.... well I can't imagine how you would feel if you were expected to produce a gift for a birthday, shower, or other occassion. I am just glad that my friends and family are not so caught up in the "well I already gave you this....." idea. To me THAT is the selfish way of thinking not the other way around. It is an invite to a party.... you can choose not to purchase a ticket... but many people that love the bride and groom are more than happy to fork out a whopping ten bucks to have a great party and willingly spend a couple bucks to help them start their life even if they dont'[ need the help.... they aren't caught up on keeping track of how much support should or shouldn't be given.... I guess that is the difference in "youth today" (even though it's been a tradition around my area for many many many many years) we are just more willing to offer what we have even if it's not required.

[lizbud]

Well, why hold my breath? You are already taken.

hee hee

[Puckstop31]

As stated, I could use a few bucks, too. Please, forward the money to me. Though, it does feel uncomfortable to ask for money....seeing that you are not a bank or other credit extender. But, if others can ask, and feel no shame, sign me up!

You are so funny... Lighten up a little, eh?

It is a tradition. Nobody forces a person to purchase stuff at these events, but they generally do. Why? Because they are friends and family of the bride and/or groom and WANT to help them start their new lives.

What is so freaking difficult to understand about that?