Banned from grad for senior prank

[sparks19]

Okay. So will mommy and the media be there when he gets fired for violating company policy? Pranking? Will mommy set up a meeting to talk to his boss?

People need to accept the consequence of their actions. Missing graduation does not strike me as that serious of a consequence. He can put on the cap and gown and mommy can take his photo.

I deal with these people in the workplace all the time.

He sounds to me like a Paris Hilton in training...

LOL What?

So if the school called you up and said your child did this and that and this and that..... you wouldn't set up any kind of meeting with the teacher or principal to discuss the issues at hand? No one ever said the mother was trying to get the child out of punishment.... she was trying to see if there was a more appropriate punishment for the crime..... from what I can tell that is what makes your child YOUR child... YOU should deal with their issues and not just leave the teachers hanging out in the wind to deal with their issues and say "Oh well his problems are his own" Now that in no way suggests you should try to get your child out of any and all punishment but I definitely think a parent should be very active in their childs school life and punishment.

After 18 their mistakes are their own.... before 18 (mature or not) their mistakes are still your responsibility so you should do whatever you can to get to the bottom of their behaviour. Did the mother go about it the right way? Maybe she did maybe she didn't... we weren't at the meeting. But to say she was just trying to get him out of paying any consequences is a little presumptuous wouldn't you say?

[CagneyDog]

Actually it would do nothing to put a damper on his future. He will still get his diploma, probably mailed to him. He just can't go to the actual ceremony at the school and get it in public. He wasn't denied graduating, just going to the ceremony.

Oh! Sorry, I didn't catch that. Well that totally changes things, doesn't it!

[lizbud]

After 18 their mistakes are their own.... before 18 (mature or not) their mistakes are still your responsibility so you should do whatever you can to get to the bottom of their behaviour. Did the mother go about it the right way? Maybe she did maybe she didn't... we weren't at the meeting. But to say she was just trying to get him out of paying any consequences is a little presumptuous wouldn't you say?

Graduation ceramonies are not the place to get into why the child
acted the way they did, it's a time for them to show their maturity and
decent manners at a public function. The time for learning how to act
in public has long passed by the age of 17 or18.

And I think it's a pretty safe assumpion to think the mother would do
anything she could to "protect" her child from being denied participation
in the public ceremony.

[sparks19]

And I think it's a pretty safe assumpion to think the mother would do
anything she could to "protect" her child from being denied participation
in the public ceremony.

But to assume that she just wants him out of any punishment at all just because she is trying to get him back into graduation and pay his price in other ways is just... well... silly to me.

Tell me that as a mother you would just pass up the opportunity to see your son walk in graduation without at least TRYING to get him a different punishment like paying the cost and volunteering in the cafeteria cleaning all the trays etc etc. I do NOT in any way, shape or form think that makes her a bad mother at all nor do I think that is allowing her child to get away with his crime without punishment. Trying to get her son back into graduation does not mean she doesn't want him to pay the consequences.... nor does it mean that she will run to his rescue if he screws up in "the real world" whatever that is.

and it is never too late to be a parent My father STILL tries to tell me what is and isn't good for me to eat and tell me how I should spend my money etc etc (even though this man survives on sausages and baloney sandwiches lol I don't think he is in any position to tell me how to eat haha) Parents are parents whether you are 2 or 20 or 90.

[Lady's Human]

Once the school handed out the punishment, I would tell the teenager to suck it up, be glad that's all it is, and deal with it, which is pretty much what my parents would have told me.