I also agree that all cats aren't lap cats. My cat Storm is only a lap cat if he's not feeling well or if he's very scared. He'll only let me hold him for about a minute before he wants to be let down. He loves me to pet him and give him belly rubs though. He's very dog like since he's very social. Pepper is a lap cat and likes to cuddle with me. He'll start kneading my neck and chest and if he's very excited he'll drool all over me. He likes me to give him hugs and he'll even hug back. Sunny will be a lap cat when he feels like it but usually prefers me to pet him and give him belly rubs. Storm is 6 years old and will be 7 in January. He's calmed down a lot since I've had him. He now likes to sleep in the mornings so he isn't a very early riser like his brother are. Pepper (5years old) and Sunny (2 years old) are morning cats and can wake up as early as 5am. Pepper is a very quiet cat so he doesn't bother me but Sunny will start chirping at me to try to wake me up or to get attention. I'm sure that your cats will mellow with age. Good luck.