Prevent the torture of my son ;)

[DrKym]

Ok guys.... the boy (I mean BOY) doesn't drive. Hubby at least is smart enough to draw the line at paying for everything. Hubby will NOT toss any of his kids out no matter what. I sure wish he would, even if for one night!

Hubby is FURIOUS with the boy for the stunt he pulled this morning. Absolutely furious. but he isn't home from work yet and I'm betting that even when he does come home, his "talk" will amount to "don't do it again". Everyone thinks hubby is a big blow-hard, know-it-all, push-'em-around kind of guy. He's the biggest push-over there is! He knows it too and complains that he just can't say no to the kids.... which leave ME being the bad guy who ends up saying no and making me evil in the kids' eyes.

Its gonna be a loooooong summer. Anyone have extra room for me and 5 cats?

So when are you arriving?

[Sara luvs her Tinky]

That makes me think of this lady i work with.

one son is 31 .. . never had his own place.. still lives at home.,, got his girlfriend pregnant 4 years ago.. moved pregnant girlfriend into his mom and dads house and two years later decide they are ready for another baby !!!!!!!!!! so now the family of FOUR still live under mommy and daddy's roof. Mommy of two is a "stay at home mom" and it has been a miracle that daddy has kept his job for this long...

2nd or should i say first son of the lady i work with is 33! still lives at home .... won't keep a job. Her and her husband let one of their cars go back to the bank because *they* pay for his car note and can't afford three cars. and she don't understand why I won't *DATE* him cause he is sooo good with kids !!!!!!


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I say you need to do something about you guys' son NOW.. if you don't you could be paying for him for the rest of your lives... and he will be living and mooching off you forever cause he won't know how to take care of himself.. (especially if he doesn't *have* to)

[Marigold2]

My friend has a son like that and she also refuses to throw him out. She says she wouldn't throw a dog out how can she throw her own flesh and blood out.
This worthless kid has caused her so much grief. He has no sense of pride. My friend is divorced so it's her decision alone. Alex gets a job and then keeps it for a week or so. Everyone tells her to kick him out and hopefully she will come to her senses. Maybe talking to a therapist is the answer for you. Otherwise fights with this kid could ruin your marriage. Hubby needs to grow a backbone.
He is not doing this kid any favors, because this is not how the real world works. The sooner a person learns that the better. Perhaps your son is depressed, I would go the therapy route, and if hubby refuses to go, just go yourself for your own piece of mind. Best of luck.

[joycenalex]

he knows how to get jobs, he needs to learn how to keep them. he's 21, not a legally dependant child, and some adversity early in life will strengthen his spine. good luck with your hubby, you can show him this, it might help to see that his softness is no kindness in the longer run of your sons life

[king2005]

he knows how to get jobs, he needs to learn how to keep them. he's 21, not a legally dependant child, and some adversity early in life will strengthen his spine. good luck with your hubby, you can show him this, it might help to see that his softness is no kindness in the longer run of your sons life

Don't I know it...
I wasn't nearly as bad as your son, but I had a lot of things handed to me, esp. when I was with my ex. He paid all my bills & took care of everything.

Then one day I was dumped in a strange city alone. No folks to run to, not a single friend to lend me a hand. It was a horrible exp. to go through. I went through all kinds of emotions, ups & downs, rich, then poorer then dirt. I survived it all cause my dad taught me to always work hard, even when you don't need the money. So when I was dumped I had a full time job that was secure.

I had the chance to be a stay at home wife, as my ex made so much money, but I kept working. I don't even want to think where I'd be without the job I have today.

My dad taught me well, never be lazy, be smart, & work hard. I'm only 24, just a few yrs older then your son.

What would your son do if he was suddenly alone in the world? he wouldn't have much of a fun start thats for sure. Your hubby needs to prepare him for the real world, which isn't always friendly

[emily_the_spoiled]

Maybe you should not be paying for his tuition, but let him rack up some student loans. Some people are more "receptive" to education when they are paying for the entire shot...