Prevent the torture of my son ;)

[RICHARD]

Take all the stuff YOU paid for out of his room.

Draw a line at his door and don't bother with the contents.

When he starts to complain say, "You are right, have no responsibilities is the way to go...."

TOUGH LOVE, BABY!

[RedHedd]

Wait! Three jobs this summer? It's not even summer yet!

[catnapper]

Ok guys.... the boy (I mean BOY) doesn't drive. Hubby at least is smart enough to draw the line at paying for everything. Hubby will NOT toss any of his kids out no matter what. I sure wish he would, even if for one night!

Hubby is FURIOUS with the boy for the stunt he pulled this morning. Absolutely furious. but he isn't home from work yet and I'm betting that even when he does come home, his "talk" will amount to "don't do it again". Everyone thinks hubby is a big blow-hard, know-it-all, push-'em-around kind of guy. He's the biggest push-over there is! He knows it too and complains that he just can't say no to the kids.... which leave ME being the bad guy who ends up saying no and making me evil in the kids' eyes.

Its gonna be a loooooong summer. Anyone have extra room for me and 5 cats?

[lizbud]

Seems like this is only a problem for you & not your hubby. If you can't
get hubby to back you up here, then you'll probably have little chance of
changing anything. It's too bad but, the boy has to grow up sometime.

[DrKym]

Ok guys.... the boy (I mean BOY) doesn't drive. Hubby at least is smart enough to draw the line at paying for everything. Hubby will NOT toss any of his kids out no matter what. I sure wish he would, even if for one night!

Hubby is FURIOUS with the boy for the stunt he pulled this morning. Absolutely furious. but he isn't home from work yet and I'm betting that even when he does come home, his "talk" will amount to "don't do it again". Everyone thinks hubby is a big blow-hard, know-it-all, push-'em-around kind of guy. He's the biggest push-over there is! He knows it too and complains that he just can't say no to the kids.... which leave ME being the bad guy who ends up saying no and making me evil in the kids' eyes.

Its gonna be a loooooong summer. Anyone have extra room for me and 5 cats?

So when are you arriving?

[Sara luvs her Tinky]

That makes me think of this lady i work with.

one son is 31 .. . never had his own place.. still lives at home.,, got his girlfriend pregnant 4 years ago.. moved pregnant girlfriend into his mom and dads house and two years later decide they are ready for another baby !!!!!!!!!! so now the family of FOUR still live under mommy and daddy's roof. Mommy of two is a "stay at home mom" and it has been a miracle that daddy has kept his job for this long...

2nd or should i say first son of the lady i work with is 33! still lives at home .... won't keep a job. Her and her husband let one of their cars go back to the bank because *they* pay for his car note and can't afford three cars. and she don't understand why I won't *DATE* him cause he is sooo good with kids !!!!!!


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I say you need to do something about you guys' son NOW.. if you don't you could be paying for him for the rest of your lives... and he will be living and mooching off you forever cause he won't know how to take care of himself.. (especially if he doesn't *have* to)

[Marigold2]

My friend has a son like that and she also refuses to throw him out. She says she wouldn't throw a dog out how can she throw her own flesh and blood out.
This worthless kid has caused her so much grief. He has no sense of pride. My friend is divorced so it's her decision alone. Alex gets a job and then keeps it for a week or so. Everyone tells her to kick him out and hopefully she will come to her senses. Maybe talking to a therapist is the answer for you. Otherwise fights with this kid could ruin your marriage. Hubby needs to grow a backbone.
He is not doing this kid any favors, because this is not how the real world works. The sooner a person learns that the better. Perhaps your son is depressed, I would go the therapy route, and if hubby refuses to go, just go yourself for your own piece of mind. Best of luck.

[joycenalex]

he knows how to get jobs, he needs to learn how to keep them. he's 21, not a legally dependant child, and some adversity early in life will strengthen his spine. good luck with your hubby, you can show him this, it might help to see that his softness is no kindness in the longer run of your sons life

[Twisterdog]

his "talk" will amount to "don't do it again". Everyone thinks hubby is a big blow-hard, know-it-all, push-'em-around kind of guy. He's the biggest push-over there is! He knows it too and complains that he just can't say no to the kids.... which leave ME being the bad guy who ends up saying no and making me evil in the kids' eyes.

Its gonna be a loooooong summer. Anyone have extra room for me and 5 cats?

My husband is EXACTLY the same way, and I, too, am the "mean one", all the time!

I know EXACTLY how that is, and I have no more answers than you do.

[K9karen]

My parents practically begged me NOT to move out because they wanted me to save my money. I'm so so grateful that my brother and I had great relationships with our parents. We both contributed to rent/bills but they wanted us to take care of ourselves, work hard and have good careers. If they needed money, they'd ask, but this never ever made us spoiled brats or lose respect. We had an open, honest relationship. We knew how hard our parents worked to give us so much..not always material stuff.

I'm a grown woman with a lot on my plate, and I miss my folks so much for emotional support and wisdom. I can handle almost everything but I still feel empty and alone without the "nudge"

I guess everyone's situation is different. No offense to anyone, but witnessing my friends and family, I think males have a tendency to be less driven at a certain age. But that's my opinion. My only problem now is that my brother has OCD which only affects what he does in my house. Anyway, it's a tough age and he may suddenly "wake up".

I know you have so much on your plate that it's overflowing, I'll keep you in my prayers for a little relief. Hugs

[Catty1]

Catnapper....

Put a For Sale sign in front of your house, and don't tell him.

When he notices, just say, "Oh, deal closes in a month. Didn't I tell you, dear? Your dad and I need a smaller place."

You originally asked for a game....lol.

Or MOVE and DON'T TELL HIM!