Sounds like a challenge to me. I think now you're really wanting this cat. Everyone is different but I'd keep trying w/this woman if I were you. When my dogs Charmin and Daisy died, my heart ached every time I thought of getting another dog. It was though I was being disloyal to them. Silly. Then my injured little cat Peeka appeared along w/her brother Boo and countless rescues and 8 cats (that I didn't home) later, the rest is history. I think you're ready. Go for it! I'm rootin' for ya!