I wanted to also say that I'm thinking of you. I know it's very hard. I don't think I told you but here's where I got Duke's urn. It made me feel so much better to have something personal for him. www.adirondackpeturns.com The people there are very nice, too.http://adirondackpeturns.com/memorials/Duke_1106.JPG Please check in here and let us know how you're doing. I know how much your heart is hurting right now.