Dr. G., my thoughts and prayers to you. I think a headstone gives family a place to go and remember their loved one. I have a friend who died in his early 30s from complications of undiagnosed diabetes, and although he was cremated, we had a forsythia bush planted in the park as a remembrance. It is a nice place to go and think happy memories, especially this time of year when it's blooming. If you need anything, please say the word.