I need some advice =/

[Cataholic]

Hmmm....I thought you could get birds spayed. I am pretty sure my sister had her bird spayed.

[Twisterdog]

One thing I'd like to add, and to correct about my previous post, is that smoking is much more than a habit, it is a physical and phychological addiction. I called it a "habit" twice in my post, which is certainly is, but it is also much more than that. I think it's important to make that clear.

A habit is having desert after a meal, biting your nails, leaving your bed unmade. It is far easier to change a bad habit than to conquer an addiction to a drug.

Nicotine is actually the most powerfully addictive drug there is ... harder to quit than heroin, even. On the addiction scale, nicotine is a ten out of ten.

So, while it is certainly possible to quit ... I did, after smoking for twenty years ... it is NOT easy and it is NOT simply "breaking a habit". People who have never smoked regularly have no idea of the physical, mental and emotionally torture of giving up nicotine. Don't take it lightly when someone quits, it was hell for them, whether they voiced it or not. And have some empathy for people who try and fail, or just can't quit. It's hard.

That having been said, I agree with Cataholic ... smoking in the house around minor children is NOT ok. It is NOT the same thing as choosing not to exercise enough, or eating a cookie instead of an apple. Children aren't immediately, physically affected by a parent's choice of dessert, whereas they are certainly affected by second-hand smoke.