Feeling sad for Ashley

[jenluckenbach]

I was very interested to read all the different perspectives. How true, but sometimes a person (me) can't see the other side of certain discussions. But there is one really BIG BUT!!! Wouldn't BOTH parents be available for BOTH parties??? Unless of course the parents are no longer together and/or have another SO/spouse. Maybe I am wrong, I'd like some insight (please).

[Husky_mom]

been there done that....... LOL.......

my inlaws don´t get along with my family, not because they don´t like each otehr, they just don´t like gatherings and people at all, they are very......well they don´t like people, they don´t even gather up with their own family so even less with mine.......

at Christmas, birthdays, etc., I´ve always been one day at my family´s and the other at theirs...... only last year my MIL came to my boy´s bday and only because a friend of her was attending, go figure, not even because it was her grandson´s bday, but because she didn´t wanted her friend alone..... anyway...... I couldn´t care less......

as long as my boy sees it (not pondering at it though) he has double celebrations.......and that means double presents!!! LOL.....

and I just remembered this......we´ve always had a Christmas eve at my moms side, then Christmas day at my dad´s side and now a third day at my in laws......

[catnapper]

Wouldn't BOTH parents be available for BOTH parties??? Unless of course the parents are no longer together and/or have another SO/spouse. Maybe I am wrong, I'd like some insight (please).

I think I understand your question... Ashley will be at both parties, but CF will not. He's too much a chickensh*t to go to the one with our family and Ashley's friends. He knows none of her friends like him. He knows none of her family likes him. So he'll pretend he has to work or something. I've seen him do it time and time again and his excuses are very imaginative (I particuarly liked the excuse of missing Christmas at our house to be at his dying cousin's bedside - the very same cousin who doesn't exist, I know because I asked his mom how the cousin was feeling and she had no clue who I was talking about! LOL) Yes, I'm bitter and I can vent here but I'm quiet about it to Ashley. It doesn't help mentioning any of this to Ashley because its not being heard. Cameron listens more than she does