Is There Anyone?

[Maya & Inka's mommy]

I've been married for almost 28 years !
I've met my hubby when I was 22 and a half! All my friends were making fun of me because I didn't find a man....! I lived in a very small village with only 900 inhabitants. My dad was the local police. So everyone in the village was talking about me, I was the talk of the town!! Then I decided to follow a dance-course for singles. Guess what: I met Bernard then, and 9 months later we were married!! Haha, of course I was the talk of the town again, everybody was sure that this was " a forced" marriage (a kid on the way).
They were all wrong

ps. how I got his attention?? I stepped on his toes all the time

[catnapper]

Ah, you sound like I was at the same age. First thing you need to remember: don't fall for the first guy that starts dating you. I did that. He was a "nice guy" but not for me. I was just so in love with the idea of having someone to love that I overlooked glaring incompatabilities. We were actually pre-engaged (sounds funny to me now but it was oh-so-serious at the time )

Second thing to remember: enjoy your life. Enjoy your friends. Enjoy the freeedom to do what you want, how you want, and find out who you are first. Many marriages end in divorce because people change. Its easy to change when you didn't know who you were in the first place. This kind of self-knowledge often doesn't come at 20 years old. If it does, then you're lucky. I don't know many people who have the same philosophies and outlook at 30 as they did at 20. Life and experience brings wisdom and a well-rounded self. Experiences include work, school, friends, and trying on different relationships.

which brings me to my third point: Try on different guys. Guys you might not have otherwised considered. Think you only like the quiet, sensitve type? Try a boisterous sports guy. Try an ambitious thinker. Try them all! you might be surprised at what they can teach you about yourself and you might just find the perfect match in a guy who you'd have never looked at twice otherwise.

I didn't get married til I was 28. I swore I was going ot be an old spinster living with my parents forever. I swore I was never going to find the right guy for me. I can't tell you how perfect my husband is for me... he's not perfect, neither am I but we're a perfect fit together.

[Kalei]

Wow, I am so happy to come on and see so many people replying! It means alot and I have taken in all your advice and love hearing the stories. I guess you are all right, I do have to find myself before I get married or in a really serious relationship, and I know I don't truely know who I am yet, I know that I am Kalei and I love animals and whatnot, but I still get very confused about life and definatley don't know where my life is headed yet.

I like myself, but am also insecure about myself too sometimes, so I should try and learn to be happy with myself. I am very happy for you guys that alot of you have very happy marriages and found that right one for you! That is so great

I will say that it is nice being single when it comes to being able to do everything for myself lol. But I would also love to have someone to love too lol.