Well said Karen.
Let me just make one more point. While we've (Bruce and I) been together for 4 years, I am okay with the not getting married. At first I really wanted to BADLY! But now I've come to just enjoy the love we share, and how happy we are. Married or not, nothing's going to change that.
Yeah, I really wasn't expecting anything to happen between Bruce and I at first......mainly because he is 13 years older than me. But I just went with it and it worked out beautifully!!
As the other two said....just go with the flow and don't LOOK too hard for something. Find happiness within yourself and then love will find you.