Is There Anyone?

[Kalei]

You said it........you're only 20. I felt the same way when I was 20. I didn't find the love of my life until I was 30. And I found him on the internet, match.com. Please don't feel discouraged. You are still very young and that right guy will come along for you. I know it's difficult when all of your friends are getting married and there you are........single. I went through the exact same thing. I can't believe I am telling you this stuff. This is exactly what I hated hearing while I was in that situation. But as they say, you grow wiser as you grow older. (darn it!!)
Oh and btw - we are STILL not married (after 4 years!! ) So I am trying to be patient just like you. It's not easy, is it?

Haha, no its not easy being patient. Specially when you want to love someone and someone to love you back. Well for my positive vibes,I am going to send good vibes that you will get married soon 4 years is definatley a long time to be together and not get married, but then again I've known some couples that have been together for 10 years and haven't gotten married.

And you got it down pact. My bestfriend has a steady boyfriend for over a year, even my 16 year old sister has a boyfriend, lol I feel so left out and unloved by a guy

Someday I hope that I will find someone.

[Karen]

Concentrate on happy with yourself just as you are. Don't think you need someone in order to be happy - that's pretty off-putting in a relationship. And when you are happy and love yourself, it will be easier for someone to love you!

And ceratinly don't let others around you being in a steady relationship put any pressure on you.

When I was your age, I had a friend who was worried about never getting married. She obsessed about it. She also was not happy with herself as a person. Now, many years later, we reconnected, and she's finally happy being single, and grateful, in retrospect, that she didn't get stuck in a relationship just for the sake of being in a relationship.

If you are going to find someone, you will - in time.

[CountryWolf07]

You sound so much like me!


First of all; I never thought I would meet a guy. Definitely don't try to LOOK; it will happen to you when you at least expect it to. That happened to me. I never believed anyone who would tell me that saying; I would shrug that off and just not listen.. then I finally stopped looking; and it happened. I have a wonderful boyfriend of 5 months; and I could've not met anyone amazing like him. He is everything I have ever wanted in a guy. I dated a lot, I have discovered that you date all the wrong ones; until you find the right one.. that saying is so true. That's completely the type of situation I was in til' Mike. So I am grateful for all the experiences I had; things I learned, it was a ride. Things happen when they happen. Just let it. JUST ENJOY life & have FUN!; you're only 20 years old. I'll be 23 in September, but I was single all my life up to 5 months ago.

How I met him? He saw me on campus; just walking around in October, and just noticed something about me. He smiled at me, and I smiled back at him, and we walked past eachother. He never forgot me. Later on; he found out I was friends with his best friend's girlfriend that I have known since 4th grade. We didn't meet until January. We both had instant "chemistry", we were friends for two weeks; we hung out every day; I still consider him as my friend, but a lot more. We didn't start dating until two weeks later after we met; it just felt right, and it just happened. I believe that we weren't supposed to meet THAT day he saw me.. but later on, things fell in place.


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[Taz_Zoee]

Well said Karen.
Let me just make one more point. While we've (Bruce and I) been together for 4 years, I am okay with the not getting married. At first I really wanted to BADLY! But now I've come to just enjoy the love we share, and how happy we are. Married or not, nothing's going to change that.
Yeah, I really wasn't expecting anything to happen between Bruce and I at first......mainly because he is 13 years older than me. But I just went with it and it worked out beautifully!!
As the other two said....just go with the flow and don't LOOK too hard for something. Find happiness within yourself and then love will find you.