Kim, as you may remember my grandson, Jeremy, was born just a couple of weeks before Cam. My daughter (Christiansmommy) has decided to have two separate parties for his first birthday party as there would be just too many people. If everyone on *our side* of the family comes there will be 24. Two weeks later, if everyone on Rob's side of the family comes there will easily be another 24. Her house just can't hold 48 people. Also, when you get such a large crowd you don't even get to talk with everyone. I don't think I'd even let on to Ashley that you find anything wrong with this because honestly it is not all that uncommon. The important thing is that in the future, when Cam is old enough to understand things, he doesn't realize that there is friction between the two sides. As Moosmom says, don't worry too much about the future. You don't even know what the scenario will be in a few years. Wish I could follow my own "don't worry" advice about things that pertain to my own life.