Kim,

I wouldn't come down on Ashley for not telling you. I'm sure she just didn't want to hurt your feelings. Try and give her a little credit. Remember, SHE'S stuck in the middle here.

As far as future occasions, I think you're worrying FAR too soon about something that may or MAY NOT happen. Chill, girl!! Make the best of the day. In the meantime, I'll light a candle and say a Hail Mary for ya!!