Feeling sad for Ashley

[Prairie Purrs]

I have to agree with Ginger's Mom about the "extra" parties. My parents and my sister's mother-in-law get along just fine and live about a half-hour away from each other, but each household has its own holiday celebrations. So my sister and her family spend time at each house on holidays--and they have their own celebration at home besides.

The not-getting-along part is a bigger issue, of course. And a very difficult one.

[moosmom]

Kim,

I wouldn't come down on Ashley for not telling you. I'm sure she just didn't want to hurt your feelings. Try and give her a little credit. Remember, SHE'S stuck in the middle here.

As far as future occasions, I think you're worrying FAR too soon about something that may or MAY NOT happen. Chill, girl!! Make the best of the day. In the meantime, I'll light a candle and say a Hail Mary for ya!!

[Pam]

Kim, as you may remember my grandson, Jeremy, was born just a couple of weeks before Cam. My daughter (Christiansmommy) has decided to have two separate parties for his first birthday party as there would be just too many people. If everyone on *our side* of the family comes there will be 24. Two weeks later, if everyone on Rob's side of the family comes there will easily be another 24. Her house just can't hold 48 people. Also, when you get such a large crowd you don't even get to talk with everyone. I don't think I'd even let on to Ashley that you find anything wrong with this because honestly it is not all that uncommon. The important thing is that in the future, when Cam is old enough to understand things, he doesn't realize that there is friction between the two sides. As Moosmom says, don't worry too much about the future. You don't even know what the scenario will be in a few years. Wish I could follow my own "don't worry" advice about things that pertain to my own life.

[Daisy and Delilah]

I have to agree with Joyce and others, Kim.

Sometimes it's just easier to keep the peace and have two seperate functions than to try to have one with everybody together.