Watch them closely. Abby screams her little princess head off whenever Pouncer is near. I spent a lot of time protecting her from him. Turns out she liked the attention she got afterwards from mommy saving her. I started watching t heir interactions. I suddenly became aware that she started half their encounters! She would bait him and make him come after her. Then scream her little head off. Its a game that she willingly instigated! Of course there's times where she simply wants to be left alone and he can't resist the urge to jump on her