Aly has great advice. That is very important not pressure her into getting along w/ your hubby. Let her go at her own pace. Yes lots of tiny treats so she won't fill up as fast and she will think she is getting more. If your husband can pet her without a problem then I reccomend doing fun things with her like a walk or game of fetch (only play fetch if she is not intimidated by him & by him throwing an object). Good luck and no it is not selfish to try out a dog, hey at least you are giving the dog a chance which it might not of ever gotten!! Talk to the dog, I,m serious, I know some might think this silly & I am wacky but I don't care, but sit down w/ the dog and pet her and calmy in a nice serious voice explain this situation to the dog I swear that some dogs can understand things and it might help. Congrats on the poss. pup to be! I wish you the best of luck!