I am so angry right now..this really has put me over the edge

[Husky_mom]

sorry to hear that but I DO sympathize.......

while I´m the older sis......my sis was the one with great grades and I never was a smarty in school.....NEVER....... I always was this kind of tomboy and she was the girly girl......mom tried me to be like that......you know "let me do your hair and makeup" I always refused......

my sis is very thin and I´m not, but that didn´t bothered me as I knew I had other BETTER attributes.....(no ofense to my sis but it´s true) I was never self obssesed, I am a person who people look for not by looks but for companion and friendship.....I´m easy to talk to and very comprehensive....

later on I found out SHE was mad because she felt she was the one being compared to me..... which was not.....

It really sucks to be compared but I always was like "whatever" I know who I am and how I am and I LIKE MYSELF......... period..... if someone doesn´t likes me boo hoo......

my family has always been (well until now) a tennis (sport) family, ALL my dad, mom, sis......but not me........LOL........I HAD TO DARE AND BE DIFFERENT.......because that was who I am...... now they are into bowling (not my sis as she moved to SC) but my mom, dad, and bro.......and once again NOT ME......

just you know Alyssa...... YOU ARE DIFFERENT AND SPECIAL in your own way, no one can force you to be something you are not......just BE YOURSELF!! we love you

[IRescue452]

You parents have a very innapropriate affective style. They must be trying to give you a personality disorder. I think they need counseling.

[Alysser]

So, I talked to my mom. I didn't really mean to make it sound bad, but she doesn't really say much about the weight. She just said, I need to loose a little pounds around my stomach so nothing happens to my heart, she's not calling me fat or anything. Even my doctor says that. Anyway, she said that she will try and stop and I made the agreement to try my hardest in school. I really think it'll be tough as I am not a brilliant person and I hate school, but I will try. I don't know about the sports, I didn't ask her but she better not force me into a sport again.

Thanks for the support and kind replies everyone.

[CathyBogart]

You know...my sister was always the smart, pretty, privileged one too....then she got caught stealing alcohol at 17 years old! Nobody's perfect.

[Catty1]

My sister was the smart pretty one too, who could have skipped from Grade One to Grade Six.

I got jealous occasionally, but at least my parents were good about it.

Later on - like my sister and I did - you might get to 'compare notes' with your sister. You might be surprised!

My sister died of MS one year ago April 25. She was 48, 1 1/2 years younger than me.

In spite of your parents, I hope you can love your sister.

hugs!

[caseysmom]

Good for you for talking to her, I hope it gets better. I know your Mom loves you, like finn's mom said we parents are not perfeft.

[Toby's my baby]

I'm very sorry Alyssa. I'm glad you have talked to your mom though!

I know almost exactly what you are going through. I'm pretty sure almost everybody gets compaired to their siblings to some extent or another. Try having a twin! Not so much my parents, but other people compare me and my sister constantly. The obviously don't notice it, but it is actually really rude.

I hope you can work everything out, and you can get back to the activities you enjoy!