Are We Really True Friends?

[crow_noir]

I say stop letting yourself be used by her.

When i was young i was in the same situation. This one girl was just about the only one that would let me hang out with her. She was nice to me... but only some of the time. The rest of the time she was really bossy and would say mean things to me.

I look back on it and realize i would have been much better off being alone. I stayed her friend for many years and have many emotional scars from it. Even some physical issues.

If you can work up the courage to tell her to bug off talk to your other three friends and see if they don't want to be her friend any more either. Maybe they are suffering the same way you are. She can't make the four of you stop being friends.

G'luck. Remember to respect your self enough to be loved. Friends should truly care about how you feel, not about how powerful they can be over you.

i have this friend. her name is Cassie and she and me are really good friends. or so i think...

well, first thing is first, we have been friends snice the third grade and since then she has been really, really mean to me. she kicks me, slaps me and punches me for know reason and it really hurts. whenever i tell her to stop or hit her back, she gets all mad. then she will ignore me for a day.
thats not all. she cheats of my tests and copies all my school work. whenever i cover my paper, she gets mad. after a day or two, she'll get over it.
i'm not the only one Cassie loves to hurt. my other friends, Kelly, Stacey and Grace also get hurt by her. she just loves to hurt people for fun
Cassie loves to make fun of me too! and it really hurts me inside. whenever i ask her to stop she just says 'NO!!'

ok, you mite be thinkin: why do i just stop being friend with her. well... if i do that then i won't be able to be friends with Kelly, Stacey and Grace. that's how it works with her. if your not her friend, then u can't talk to her friends....
i have been told friends don't care how you look or what u wear, but Cassie does. she stopped being friends with a girl named Hannah cause she thought she was too ugly to be hung out with! i told Cassie that wasn't rite, so i went to talk to Hannah, but Cassie told me not to.
Cassie has cuaght me talking to Hannah and she ignored me for a week. i couldn't talk to Stacey, Grace and Kelly at all cuz Cassie was mad at me.
Cassie does plan days to ignore me! once i looked through her calender once when i sleeped over her house. every single Thursday and Monday had ritten on it 'ignore that ugly April' i got so mad i left her house!

Any help would be much helpfull! i really, really need help with my friendship

[Pawsitive Thinking]

She sounds like the sort of friend you could well do without and the other 3 don't sound much better.

Move on and find a whole new set of friends - you deserve better

[Miss Z]

She sounds like the sort of friend you could well do without and the other 3 don't sound much better.

Move on and find a whole new set of friends - you deserve better

I agree with that, she sounds like a real nasty piece of work. No-one who hurts another so greatly should have the nerve to call that person their friend.

I'm glad that her parents are going to talk to her, perhaps it will help, although I do doubt it. She doesn't sound like the type to take advice.

I'm sorry you have to go through this. Sometimes I feel very lucky that I am very close to my two best friends and that we always help each other out no matter what. I hope that everything gets better for you from here.

[joycenalex]

april, you did the right thing, and i'm proud of you, it was brave to stand up to a bully. regards, joyce

[AbbyMom]

Good for you for doing the right thing!

In most people's lives there comes a point when they realize that there are people who just aren't worth being around. They are trouble. They cause pain. They cause upset and distress wherever they go.

Frankly, some of these people may have real problems...but you can't solve them.

Part of being an adult is to be able to recognize who these people are and avoid them.

Sounds to be like you've recognized Cassie for what she is and that it's time to move on to people who can be real friends.

Tell Kelly, Stacey and Grace that and ask them to do the same.

[Laura's Babies]

That is what is called a "toxic" friend. If she treats her friends like that, how does she treat her enimies? I never allowed anyone to treat me that way. Do you really NEED to be part of her following? That is NOT a friend, that is a dictatorshipe.

[catnapper]

I think you already know she's not a friend. The other girls will catch on and leave her if you start the process by leaving first. They are probably afraid to stop being her friend because they were also threatened that they won't be able to talk to you (since you'd still be her friend)

Leave this mean girl in the dust and go make friends with Hannah (I have the feeling the "ugly" girl was way nicer and therefore a threat to the other girl)