Bailey the Labrador went to the RB

[lvpets2002]

Mary thats quite alright where your Thread is.. You have nothing to be sorry for & no one needs to be asking for your apologies.. You have been greiving so much.. We all understood.. Huggss & Prayers.. Try to have a very nice Easter..

Karen allowed me to put it there because I had written a previous thread about her. I won't do it again but she indulged me this one time.

[Genny]

I'm so sorry Mary; that's so sad about Bailey. I know how you feel because when I thought I was going to have to put my collie to seep after 10 years because she had a huge tumor that ruptured I was so so scared for her and so sad and upset. My mom wanted to know if I wanted my dad to just carry her to have it done, but I said NO. If we carried her I wanted to be with her all the way til the end. I didn't want her to be afraid or scared. Thankfully, she went on the Heaven on her own and we didn't have to get her pts. I was glad we didn't have to because the thought of it was killing me inside. I still miss her every single day and there is never a day that goes by that I don;t think about her.

I'm so so so sorry about Bailey. I know you wanted to be there and I'm so sorry that they didn't call you which they definitely should have since you asked them to. I know that Bailey must have really loved you though. Please take care...

Genny

[phesina]

Oh, Mary, what a horrible, horrible way for this to turn out! And how heartbreaking. I'm so sorry. You did absolutely everything that you could possibly have done for dear Bailey. And still it turned out like this, due to Mike's thoughtlessness and irresponsibility and, resulting from that, circumstances completely beyond your control, i.e., her winding up at the emergency vet's, who didn't know to call you.

As somebody or other, I don't remember who, once said, There Ain't No Justice (or TANJ for short). Not in this particular plane of existence, anyway. BUT:

I think (hope, anyway) that these things all get settled out at the end and that Bailey knows everything now. Mike was not worthy of her. She is resting and healing peacefully and settling in at the Bridge, knowing and grateful for how loved she is by you and now by so many Pet Talkers. She will be there to greet you and welcome you, One Fine Day (thank you, Gary). And she is just in time for the big Easter party in Vegas!

Thank you for posting in the Cats Memorial section. I might have missed it elsewhere.

We are all sending our hugs and purrs of love and support,

Pat, Priscilla, Peony, Poppy, Sydney, and Elmer

[Taz_Zoee]

That just makes me so sad that Bailey had to go through that alone. That is not okay. At least you can rest easy knowing she is no longer in pain and is having a blast at the Bridge. (there seems to be a lot of pets going to the Bridge lately, are they having a party up there or what?)
Thank you for wanting to be there with his dog even if he didn't. You have such a kind heart.

[kb2yjx]

O NO!!! O, Mary, I am so sad to read about Bailey. Unfortunately, like a few people I know that have pets, Mike was not there for Bailey when she needed him the most! But like others have posted, at least there were caring people there with her at the end. Bailey knows very well, Mary, how you tried to be a good advocate for her!!! Sleep softly, dear Bailey...

[Medusa]

It just hurts me to think that Bailey wasn't cradled in Mike's arms when she passed. She absolutely adored him; you could see it in her eyes. He mentioned it all the time, too. And to think that the last words she could've heard are "I love you, Bailey" but instead she more than likely heard "Ok, start the injection." I just get so sad. No animal should have to endure that. Even the ferals that I rescued that had to be PTS were held and softly spoken to so that they knew the human touch and experienced some loving kindness before they left this plane. I'm still so shocked and angry that Mike could do that to Bailey. I haven't spoken to him since. In spite of it all, I know that he's grieving. But I also know that he's relieved that he didn't have to be there when she died. And that's why I don't want to talk to him.

[JuniorxMyxLove]

I see how all of you are so angry at this Mike. But have you thought about how hard it must have been to know that his baby was dying? You said that you could tell how much she adored him...maybe he would have felt guilty, knowing he was allowing them to do this to her. Maybe not being there was the only thing he could bear. I don't know him...so I can't say this is why, but I think it might be. Perhaps he didn't want his last memory of Bailey to be her drifting away....to never wake up....

That said, I am soo sorry. I know how hard it is to lose a good friend. A broken lamp or a ripped tee-shirt can be replaced. Your best friend cannot.The day Bonnie died was horrible for me. I wasn't even home. I felt soo bad that I hadn't been there to hold her as she left us in our kitchen. But, I guess she wouldn't have wanted me to go through the pain of watching her go. I got to say goodbye in the vets office, where we took her, but I still couldn't believe she was gone. I know it's hard. It'll be 3 years ago this august, and yet I'm still crying as I write this.

Although Bailey wasn't held by the person she loved most when she left this world, she got a warm welcome when she arrived the Bridge. All of the PT animals knew who she was.

This might make you cry, but its beautiful.
http://www.indigo.org/rainbowbridge_ver2.html

-Melanie

[sam5263]

Hi.

Let me begin by sending my deepest condolences. I've never met Bailey, yet I feel your pain. I had to put my baby to sleep this past Tuesday.

I am new to this site, and I, like many others, have been brought here under tragic circumstances. We try our very best to make sure that our friends have as much comfort in death as they do in life. Just keep in mind that the same way you have cared for others that have moved on the same way, Baily was probably comforted by a not so familiar, yet loving hand.

I can understand your frustration with Mike. People are funny creatures, and we all handle grief differently. Perhaps he is not as strong as he makes out to be, and at the last minute cracked under pressure. In fact, I've heard that some people get so hysterical at that moment that they only make this matter worse for the pet, who easily gets upset when we get upset.

You gave Bailey a great life, and I know she thanks you for it.

[-Pickle-]

I havent really been following baileys story, but anyway, i am so sorry for your loss. i had to have my dog put down last year, my parents took him out to the vet, i heard the key turn in the door, i ran downstairs to give my old duffer dog blue a big hug-
just a lead, and an empty collar.
no dog.
Mike ( which is weirdly my B******* of a stepdads name too)
took the cowards way out- there was no one there for Bailey- she died with total strangers, probably wondering where he was.
if he ever goes on life support, and has to be turned off, just phone the hospital, and tell them to just turn it off like he did to Bailey.
harsh? yes. deserving? in my eyes, yes.
Time will heal the wound, but it will more than likely leave a scar, just the fact that you werent there, and the thought of that there ws no one there is enough to scar.
RIP you little RB rascal- hey, maybe my dog can give you some pointer and show you around? look for a black collie cross with a really long nose and his sister, Purple (my dogs name was Blue) that looks about the same.