Dealing pot

[Randi]

If it's only pot, I would not worry too much, and I don't think the police will either - unless it's huge quantities.

I also think it's time that people discriminate between pot and hard drugs.

[lizbud]

If it's only pot, I would not worry too much, and I don't think the police will either - unless it's huge quantities.

I also think it's time that people discriminate between pot and hard drugs.

I agree with you Randi, although I suspect a lot of people will not.

[angelbow20]

I wouldnt do anything if it isnt affecting you personally. And if it bothers you that bad confront them and tell them they need to stop before the police find out.... Its not one of the more serious drugs so most likely they wont get in much trouble for it unless they have alot of it. It would be different if it was herion, cocaine etc though.

[tony10k]

I suppose a little more information would be in order. The person is the SO of a close family member. We (the family) would be happy to see this SO vanish into the night.

We know several cops who we can enlist the help of; we just weren't sure what to do with the information. We hear SO is dealing pot out of their workplace. Remember the movie "Loverboy" where people could ask for extra anchovies and get a date for the evening? This is a similar situation where if they ask for a special pizza they'll get the pot.

I came upon this information yesterday in a strange way. I was not fishing for the information. This is a small town and secrets don't stay hidden for long.

The reason this is such a big deal is because SO promised us and our family member that they no longer have anything to do with pot. Our family member believes everything SO tells them, while the rest of us knows they're not the perfect person they're portraying themselves as. They are hiding things and this is just one thing we can proove. If they are lying about this, what else are they lying about?

This is not a situation where the pot is the big deal. I don't want to get into the debate over pot and drugs. Its the fact that SO is lying and we can finally snag them in their own little lie.

We are stepping lightly because if our family member finds out we instigated a huge deal, especially enlisting the aid of cops, then our family member will not have anything to do with us anymore. That is the last thing we want. We are doing this to protect our family member.

[Catty1]

our family member will not have anything to do with us anymore

Until said member finds out in the aftermath how THEY have been lied to and ripped off...if the SO is arrested, friends have a way of coming forth and telling you what they knew - and didn't say to your face because they knew you wouldn't believe them.

Once your family member is blasted out of denial...I think they'll come around.

hugs

[columbine]

I agree with you Randi, although I suspect a lot of people will not.

I agree too, but the law is the law whether fair or unfair, and the criminalization of this more or less harmless stuff does indeed attract members of the "undesirable circles" LilacDragon mentioned. It's a problem created by a law created for the benefit of Anheuser-Busch, but it's still a problem. Not one I'd consider panicworthy, but if I were worried about "undesirables" hanging around, I'd talk to the guy and say, "Look, I don't trust your customers not to bring the actual bad stuff and its associated crime into my neighborhood. Knock it off or I'm blowing the whistle."

Love, Columbine

[LilacDragon]

If it's only pot, I would not worry too much, and I don't think the police will either - unless it's huge quantities.

I also think it's time that people discriminate between pot and hard drugs.

While you may well be right about this - the use of pot affects a person's judgement. And pot dealers, much like dealers of "hard drugs" have a tendancy to move in undesireable circles. After all, it is ILLEGAL. Personally, if a family member of mine was living with a pot dealer, I would be very concerned.

Having never had to deal with such an issue in my family, I really don't have a lot of advice to give.

[Cataholic]

While you may well be right about this - the use of pot affects a person's judgement. And pot dealers, much like dealers of "hard drugs" have a tendancy to move in undesireable circles. After all, it is ILLEGAL. Personally, if a family member of mine was living with a pot dealer, I would be very concerned.

Having never had to deal with such an issue in my family, I really don't have a lot of advice to give.

Gosh, me, too! While I could argue about someone smoking something in their own home every once in a while, I don't see someone 'dealing' out of their home in the same way.

[Catsnclay]

Ok, I must be having a blonde moment, would someone please spell out 'SO' for me???!!!!


I'm just not getting it, today!

[lizbud]

Significant other.

[Catsnclay]

Significant other.

thank you!

I should have figured that one out!!!

Thanks for the help.

I still think you should do something, write a letter like someone suggested, or just make a call. The first step is always the hardest.

If YOU know you did something about this (alert the police) then YOU can sleep better at night, even if they choose not to do anything about this.

Maybe they already know and are building their case - I mean come on, selling at work and not getting caught?!!! Call his boss!!!!! They can't be all that stupid, can they?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Twisterdog]

IMO, if its a small town and word is out about it anyway - obviously it is, if you weren't fishing for the information and got it anyway - then I don't see how your family member is going to find out you were the one to tip off the police.

Write an anonymous letter stating what you heard and mail it to a detective in the police department. That way, there will be no phone call, and no one will know it was you. You will be sure that way it won't slip later that you were the one to tell.

If they choose to act, they can set up an undercover sting operation. I used to date a sheriff who did undercover narc work. It was simply amazing the things they could pull off, very convincingly. Of course, if your small town is anything like my small town, they may or may not act, depending on many political issues. But that's not your problem, all you can do is report it anonymously and wait and see. Give it some time.

I too, used to buy the "only pot" argument completely. And I still do believe pot is far cry better and safer than harder drugs. However, since my son failed his ninth grade year of high school, was arrested, spent a night in jail with a child molestor and a murderer, was sent to the state reform school for three months, is on supervised probation for a year, and cost us thousands of dollars .... for "ONLY pot" ... I have developed a bit of a harsher view of the drug. Yes, it better than crack or meth. Yes, it relatively physically and psychologically harmless compared to other drugs. Yes, it's organic (unless laced, of course). However ... it is illegal. It is addictive. It is highly unmotivating and has most certainly ruined countless lives and families. Only pot? Sure ... until you watch your only child who just barely turned fourteen years old drug away in shackles and handcuffs, thrown in a van, and driven 300 miles away to a military reform school where he spent 85 days cold, hungry, sick and miserable. For less pot than one could roll one joint with. Only pot?

[wombat2u2004]

IMO, if its a small town and word is out about it anyway - obviously it is, if you weren't fishing for the information and got it anyway - then I don't see how your family member is going to find out you were the one to tip off the police.

Write an anonymous letter stating what you heard and mail it to a detective in the police department. That way, there will be no phone call, and no one will know it was you. You will be sure that way it won't slip later that you were the one to tell.

If they choose to act, they can set up an undercover sting operation. I used to date a sheriff who did undercover narc work. It was simply amazing the things they could pull off, very convincingly. Of course, if your small town is anything like my small town, they may or may not act, depending on many political issues. But that's not your problem, all you can do is report it anonymously and wait and see. Give it some time.

I too, used to buy the "only pot" argument completely. And I still do believe pot is far cry better and safer than harder drugs. However, since my son failed his ninth grade year of high school, was arrested, spent a night in jail with a child molestor and a murderer, was sent to the state reform school for three months, is on supervised probation for a year, and cost us thousands of dollars .... for "ONLY pot" ... I have developed a bit of a harsher view of the drug. Yes, it better than crack or meth. Yes, it relatively physically and psychologically harmless compared to other drugs. Yes, it's organic (unless laced, of course). However ... it is illegal. It is addictive. It is highly unmotivating and has most certainly ruined countless lives and families. Only pot? Sure ... until you watch your only child who just barely turned fourteen years old drug away in shackles and handcuffs, thrown in a van, and driven 300 miles away to a military reform school where he spent 85 days cold, hungry, sick and miserable. For less pot than one could roll one joint with. Only pot?

OMG. That happened to him ???? That is just so unbelievable. Sometimes I feel sorry for the kids when these very hard sentences get handed down.
Peer pressure in schools and such must be great on these kids to try it and all, and then they get caught. Terrible stuff. And it always seems that the wrong ones are caught and punished.
Wom

[Cataholic]

TD- thanks for sharing that story. I cannot imagine the pain.

[Twisterdog]

OMG. That happened to him ???? That is just so unbelievable. Sometimes I feel sorry for the kids when these very hard sentences get handed down.
Peer pressure in schools and such must be great on these kids to try it and all, and then they get caught. Terrible stuff. And it always seems that the wrong ones are caught and punished.
Wom

Yes, it seems that way to me, too. My son was by no means a threat to anyone but himself. He was not dealing or selling anything. He was experimenting. Of course that does not make it legal or right. But everyday I read our local paper and people caugt cooking, using and selling meth get 90 days of probation and a suspended nominal fine. I truly do not understand. Something is very wrong with the system.