Turn them in or keep quiet?

[columbine]

This is a metaphor, but a very good one. Please bear with me.

Boston's being shot up by gangs, bad. But every time there's a shooting (as often as not ofr an innocent bystander) all of a sudden everybody didn't see anything, doesn't know anything, wasn't there, didn't know the people. And the teenagers wear T-shirts with a big stop sign that says STOP SNITCHIN'. It's cool to cover for your homeys, even when they gun down your other homeys.

That's the end result of keeping quiet. In case you hadn't guessed, I disagree.

Love, Columbine

[sparks19]

I would suggest that if she wants to keep a good working relationship with this person that she send an "annonymous" letter stating what has happened.

Working relationships can be hard... especially if the boss is not willing to take any action. Then you are stuck looking like the fool. but if she just lets this go on and on it will destroy her. it's not worth saving the working relationship if it is making her miserable. She is waiting for someone else to do the "snitching" but what happens if that is what everyone is waiting for.... then nothing will be resolved.

[jennielynn1970]

I would suggest that if she wants to keep a good working relationship with this person that she send an "annonymous" letter stating what has happened.

Working relationships can be hard... especially if the boss is not willing to take any action. Then you are stuck looking like the fool. but if she just lets this go on and on it will destroy her. it's not worth saving the working relationship if it is making her miserable. She is waiting for someone else to do the "snitching" but what happens if that is what everyone is waiting for.... then nothing will be resolved.

I don't think I'd do the anonymous letter in a school setting, not up here where we are very union heavy in schools. that could be perceived as a threat, and the repercussions could be very bad for the innocent in this party.

I say be direct, be upfront. If this person knows whatever it is, how many others know? The CUSTODIANS ALWAYS KNOW. They gossip to the secretaries, who gossip to others. I find out more things from listening to the custodians gossiping to my assistant than I would ever find out otherwise.

[sparks19]

I don't think I'd do the anonymous letter in a school setting, not up here where we are very union heavy in schools. that could be perceived as a threat, and the repercussions could be very bad for the innocent in this party.

I say be direct, be upfront. If this person knows whatever it is, how many others know? The CUSTODIANS ALWAYS KNOW. They gossip to the secretaries, who gossip to others. I find out more things from listening to the custodians gossiping to my assistant than I would ever find out otherwise.

Well I mean... send a letter to whoever is in charge... and request to remain annoymous... Like.... just tell them you don't want to start conflict between the co worker and herself but that she feels it should be brought to the attention of those in charge. I dont know if they would flat out tell the teacher who complained or not .... I would hope that they would not... but I think I would let them know that I wish for my complaint to remain annonymous when approaching the teacher in question.

If you must work with this person... and they aren't going to take any real action against her... there is no point in creating a hostile working environment for yourself in the long run.