Well, this said teacher... would you actually call it STEALING issue?? I mean, look at what is going on in my district. We just had a principal go to jail because no one in the upper ranks spoke up about what they knew was going on with him (drugs and all). And that led to the cops busting him, in his office at school, NAKED and watching GAY PORN and having SEX TOYS out. I'm not kidding. Thank god it wasn't my school, but the one across town.

If it's something that is harming someone, then something needs to be done. Can you talk to the person, and say "Look, I know what you're doing, and I really don't think it's appropriate/professional, and I really wish you'd stop doing what you're doing." Not saying that you're going to rat on her, but that you know what is going on. She's a teacher, and she's supposed to have some morals and be an example for the children she teaches. I do find that the higher the grade level I go, the worse the teachers treat the kids though. I really miss elementary. They are just evil to the kids in our middle school, or they just don't care enough and let them do whatever the heck they want. We have so many who are on emergency certifications, and they just keep getting extended cause they can't pass their exams!!! It's going to sound horrible, but all the ones in my building are hispanic. Not that they are from Puerto Rico, but they are hispanic in ethnicity. Two of them say that the tests are unfair cause of language barriers, but when they were told they could take the tests in spanish, they balked. They can't read spanish, they only speak it. UGH. The one is our 8th grade guidance counselor. She's pregnant and unmarried as well. What a role model she is for the young, impressionable girls. It's disgusting what the districts can get away with. I love that we have a union, but everyone is so protected, even the worst of the worst, nothing happens to them.

I guess I'd say, after all the rambling, go with your gut. You're going to have to live with your decision. Is it something that you would condone doing? Because if you know what she is doing, and did nothing to stop it, that makes you a participant in her misdeeds. I think it comes down to what you find is morally and ethicaly acceptable.

I think the other thing is this... would they have anything to hold over you?? I mean, whomever it is in this situation?? You don't want it to be the pot calling the kettle black, and then you also have that person saying "If you say something, then I'm telling them about this." You want to make sure that there is nothing that you have done wrong that can come back to bite you. Keep your nose clean and cover your ass is what my father says.