Any advice?! I need it ASAP!

[Karen]

If she is indeed mentally ill, he needs to perservere and be insistent and get her real help. Try different doctors if he needs to, etc. If he's in physical danger, he could try for a restraining order, but if she's the "love of his life," he'll not want to abandon her quite so readily ...

I think staying in touch and being a friend and a nonjudgemental sounding board is the best possible thing you could do for him right now. He should probably be seeing a counselor as well, as dealing with a loved one who is mentally ill is taxing on anyone.

[king2005]

If she is indeed mentally ill, he needs to perservere and be insistent and get her real help. Try different doctors if he needs to, etc. If he's in physical danger, he could try for a restraining order, but if she's the "love of his life," he'll not want to abandon her quite so readily ...

I think staying in touch and being a friend and a nonjudgemental sounding board is the best possible thing you could do for him right now. He should probably be seeing a counselor as well, as dealing with a loved one who is mentally ill is taxing on anyone.

Chance took her to the psyc ward to get her help, they turned her away They gave her some pills & pushed her out the door.. sigh.. Chance is trying to get her to take the pills, but I'm not sure how well its going.. hes giving her a little space, so she can try to calm down, so he can get near her, to help her.

He wont get a restraining order against her.. Shes not hunting him down & beating the heck out of him.. Its when he goes to their home & something goes wrong (like dropping a piece of paper, or some random movement) will trigger her & BAM shes beating the heck out of him... I don't think shes hurting him cause shes mad at him, I think its more of a built up anger release, cause if hes not infront of her, she'll go after the wall & thats how shes really hurting herself (that I know of).

Shes not home anymore. (they have been talking on msn(yesterday)) & she is now gone to Quebec to stay with a uz. for a week or so. Chance is hoping that she'll be able to relax & come back to her sences, as everything there will be different & her current stresses will be gone.

Hes very worried for her safety & health.. hes keeping VERY close tabs on her. If Chance is the same Chance I knew, he wont give up, until made to, or until it kills him. Hes the most trustworthy, loyal man you'll ever meet. Ya he has a lot of faults, but never towards a loved one.


I'm usually pretty good at not being judgemental in situations kinda like this. I usually just ask questions to get him talking, & so I know what has been done, etc. Then I'll have you tried this? I've heard it works.. But I'm at a total loss for this one... I know what its like to loose your mind, but not to this degree/length...

[sweetpatata6]

Well Chance seems like he has a very good handle on what's going on, and he knows what he NEEDS to do, he just can't get there.

[king2005]

Well Chance seems like he has a very good handle on what's going on, and he knows what he NEEDS to do, he just can't get there.

I feel so sorry for him... I wish there was more I could do... I would love to go see him but I cannot afford that kind of a trip

[Lori Jordan]

What a situation,Those poor kids,Sounds to me she needs to be in a hospital to make her better.

[king2005]

What a situation,Those poor kids,Sounds to me she needs to be in a hospital to make her better.

She does, but they turned her away.

Back home there is a rule. If your born there, you'll die there & more then likely young.

The drug use & mental illness is pretty high there (that town has the highest crime ratio of ALL of Canada.. rapes, murders, suicides & DRUGS galore!!!)... I blame some of it on health care... If they would help more young folks who want/need help, then the suicide ratio would drop drasticly! & so would a lot of other ratios, drug use!!!

I was one of the lucky ones that got out of that town before getting mixed up in drugs. As I was heading down a BAD path as I did see no future like everyone else. Even though my Ex was a horrible person, if him & his family didn't take me into the city with them for school, I never would have gone & I would have stayed with the ummmm... lets leave it at that... But ya, it would have been bad

My sister got mixed up in drugs at about 12yrs old. She got preg. at 14 & OD'ed over & over & over to kill it... She was a horrid reck... When I finished college, dad no longer had to pay for my child care (I would have stayed in school longer, but I knew my sister needed the $ more then I did).. so my dad got her out of that town & into school.. Shes been clean (even from pot) since Aug 2006 or a little earlier... She hasn't touched coke, or E in years. She has cut way back on drinking, to the point she only drinks at parties, but doesn't get wasted... He smoking is going down.. She hasn't quit it yet, but she keeps cutting back at her own pace.

Chance & his g/f will be in that town, prob. for life. Unless they get a break, Chance was offered free university paid by his uncle, but he still hasn't gone I tried to incourage him to go, but he doesn't want to leave home

[Lori Jordan]

What town are they in?