Is it possible to friends with an ex?

[Uabassoon]

My best friend is actually an ex-girlfriend. We broke up though because we realized that we were best friends and not really in love with each other. The great thing is that because we were together she knows me better than anyone else. She's always able to give me the best advice especially when it comes to my relationship with Alexa since she knows exactly how I act when I'm in a relationship.

[Barbara]

It depends on the persons.
My ex-husband is a very good friend of ours. We had a period while we were divorcing in which it was not easy. But we always were decided that when we chose to get married we chose an interesting person- and I suppose we both were not ready to think bad of our judgment (You know, when people say "What an *?&%?X* my ex is" you always wonder why they didn't notice it earlier).

So after we were separated we kept in contact and have so ever after. He and his wife have stayed at our place and we at theirs. Didier (my ex) still is in the area where I am from and after the death of my dad he helped me with my mom (and we are divorced now 25 years)- he got her a new TV set when hers broke down and even went with her to see the lawyers when she sold our house and I could not come as often as needed as it is 400 miles away.

I am also still friends with old boyfriends of mine- I think the men in my life are a very fine collection (small but precious ).

[sparks19]

I would say yes. My father is great friends with all of his ex wives lol. In fact, him and his g/f would go golfing with my mom and step dad all the time. And when we all went to Florida few years ago one of the other people on the trip was his first ex wife. there is no annimosity there at all. they all even joke about what a terrible married couple they made hahaha.

[Edwina's Secretary]

I think if you were friends as well as lovers it is very possible. I have been friends with long ago boyfriends. Met their wives....my college boyfriend named his first child after me.

Time and distance have taken their toll on the relationships as well as different lifestyles, etc.

But, of course, it really depends on so many factors....just the other day I asked my husband why he never communicates with his ex-wife. Now the children are grown he finds nothing to talk to her about.

[Vio&Juni]

Definitely! I agree with Barbara here - when you start dating or when you marry someone it is for something special.

One of my ex-boyfriends is still a very good friend - we went out a few times with him and his wife. We call each other from time to time. If it didn't work out for us as a couple, that doesn't make him less my friend.

[mike001]

Very possible and very important to remain friends if there are children involved. I voted yes because of a few friends who are split but are great friends. As long as they don't live together they're both great.

[CathyBogart]

In some situations, yes it is. My boyfriend is friends with some of his exes, and I'm friends with some of them too. (His exes, not mine) I've only remained distant friends with one ex, because I dragged things in other relationships out rather than ending them when I should have.

[IrishSetterGurl]

Its possible!
Me and my ex-boyfriend broke up and we r still good friends!!
I dont no about marage cause im too young to get married!lol

[jackmilliesmom]

I have an ex who is still very much my friend and we always talk and chat on the phone or mail - he now lives state side and he and his wife visit me and John and I them.

We all get along great and the fun thing is that his wife was actually a friend of Johns, so we are all comfortable in each others company.

Jo

[Pawsitive Thinking]

I try to - living in such a small town it is a good idea because I bump into a few of them on a regular basis

[moosmom]

It depends on the relationship you two had. I find it very difficult to go back to being JUST friends after being more. None of my relationships ever turned out that way.

[catnapper]

Most definately. My inlaws were a prime example. They were great friends but shouldn't have ever been married. They always had little affairs here and there during their marriage. When they finally divorced, they both immediately met (aqnd married) other people. When my mother-in-law died, she and my father-in-law were best friends, and their spoiuses were best friends. They always joked that they loved each other but just couldn't live with each other.

[wolflady]

Reading through some of these responses gives me some hope. I hate the thought of not having my husband in my life, but things are really rough right now because of the split. We both want everything to be amicable regardless of what happens, which is a good thing I guess. I would love to be able to remain friends with him after everything is final since we've been in each others lives for 10 years now. We started out as friends and got married, and I guess we were just the type mentioned in some of these posts: friends that got married but really couldn't live together. I know we both really wanted it to work, but it just hasn't worked out that way.

[lizbud]

I would say it depends on the ex.It is possible to be friendly in public
but not a close friend in private. You can afford to not hate them but
not be the best of friends anymore.(if that makes any sense)