Quote Originally Posted by Cataholic
It is all a matter of perspective. I did all my "MY" time when I was younger. I completed ALL my education, I travelled, I went out with friends, I bought a home, clothes, went without sleep, established a career, had health benefits, etc. I had Jonah at 38. I was done 'trying to find myself', and crying about "me" time things. I was as selfish as I wanted to be. Now? I have nothing that I love doing more than being a mother. Being second, putting his needs ahead of mine. And, I feel none of this, "oh, what about me and MY needs" that I hear other young mother's complain of. Maybe it is a sad commentary on my life but, I have pretty much 'done' all that I ever wanted to do. Doesn't mean I don't have interests, hobbies, or things I can still do now, but, really, the major events were over for me.

I think having a child 'older' was the only way for me to go. And, for the record, even at 37 I was in much better physical shape than ANY of my younger friends. While I can't say the same now, I am still more active than most younger people I know. And, look at it this way- you need less sleep as you age.

HM- Congrats, and I cannot wait to hear all the wonderful things that come.

Johanna

By "my" time I mean retirement lol. See for me.... we don't have the funds to do all the travelling although I am quite satisfied with my level of travel and the travel that I want to do in the near future is kind of "childish" anyway LOL. BUT when we retire we will have the means and the time to do so. For me.... my career is going to be a stay at home mom and making jewellry lol... so that wasn't much of a concern for me. I can't say that I am unhappy with what I have done.... and I can't say that I feel I haven't had the me time. But I want to have as much time with my children as I can. For me, starting now means I will have that many more years (hopefully) to enjoy my kids as they get older and older and to hopefully enjoy grandkids and great grandkids for many years. But of course that is only the way I feel

YOu are right... it really is a preference type thing... but from my experience... it seems to be MEN that take "getting old" the hardest hehehe. Perhaps it is because I am only 25 but I am kind of looking forward to getting older lol especially "retirement" whereas my husband is all out of sorts every year around his birthday lol.