Tim I remember you and Daisy and your precious children. I know there are others here that might say "why did you get her, etc., etc.?" but that is not the issue now. I do believe that, given the situation that you describe, it might be the best thing if she was re-homed with your brother-in-law if you think he would properly care for her. That way you would still be able to see her so it would be the best of both worlds.

Should you decide to adopt in the future, I would suggest looking at shelters and selecting a pup that is older and known to be good with children. So many of those *puppy issues* are just not issues with older dogs and you would be making a world of difference in that dog's life.