Hand me over a bottle.......

[lizbud]

I was not taking pills, but yeah he knows i took off my *thingy*....... hehe

he told me he wants to but later, maybe last months of year, but since I already took it off, who knows

Hate to be a killjoy, but better listen to your husband's thoughts on this
before you go ahead with what you want. Nothing worse than "tricking"
someone into fatherhood.

If you both agree, than go ahead & take a drink of the water.

[moosmom]

Nothing worse than "tricking" someone into fatherhood.

I agree with Lizbud.

[Babyboonie]

I agree with lizbud.

There are too many "unwanted" babies/children in this world. However, if you and your hubby feel the time is right for BOTH of you, then good luck to you.

My hubby and I decided to start trying for a baby 18 months ago....we are now in the process of being referred for IVF treatment due to complications with both of us. Naturally I feel quite strongly about people who jump into pregnancy without considering what they are doing!

[sirrahved]

I agree with lizbud.

There are too many "unwanted" babies/children in this world. However, if you and your hubby feel the time is right for BOTH of you, then good luck to you.

My hubby and I decided to start trying for a baby 18 months ago....we are now in the process of being referred for IVF treatment due to complications with both of us. Naturally I feel quite strongly about people who jump into pregnancy without considering what they are doing!

I'm the same way. I can't help but get mad when I see a teenager expecting when I can't conceive!

Sorry that was OT.

Sounds like he's just having the normal jitters that comes with actually "trying". Good luck!

[sparks19]

I'm the same way. I can't help but get mad when I see a teenager expecting when I can't conceive!

Sorry that was OT.

Sounds like he's just having the normal jitters that comes with actually "trying". Good luck!

I agree. Our dear friends just had their first child. It was kind of a now or never type deal because she is older than him and it was a very high risk pregnancy as it was. He was not sure he was ready.... money, career, just being able to be a parent, period. I don't think ANYONE is truly ready when they see that little "positive" sign lol. but now he has a beautiful son. she put all his fears to rest and he is a wonderful father. There was no tricking involved....they simply talked out their fears and concerns.

Our other friends just recently got pregnant. they were both in agreement that they were ready. She found out yesterday and they are both FREAKING OUT lol.

No one can truly prepare themselves for the reality that hits them when there is no doubt that there is a baby on the way. Even the best prepared parents get scared sometimes

[Babyboonie]

I'm the same way. I can't help but get mad when I see a teenager expecting when I can't conceive!

Reading back over my original posting, I think my emotions were running high! I am the same as you Sirrahved and it's a hard thing to come to terms with if you want to have children. I suppose in some ways I am still in denial and am convinced it will happen , but it never will naturally...if at all. Still at least the "tryings" fun!!

Husky Mom - good luck and have fun!

[Husky_mom]

well............ good I din´t see much of the discussion, but thanks to those who understand.........

this would be my second, if it ever happens............ so I thik I know what I´m doing and what to expect......... it´s not "just for fun"

and my hubby knew from the start so I was in no way tricking him.........

he just thinks he´s not quite ready for a second one right now.......if he waits until he thinks he´s ready they it´ll never happen.......

I stopped the BC because it was time for changing the "item" for a new one and since I have to wait for 3-4 months so they replace it, I somewhat seized the opportunity for the posibility of a second child.........

it´s not like I have to get preg right this second maybe around june/july or so...... if he feels better waiting then he can contribute on the BC......

there are other factors involving me wanting a child now, but they don´t seem to affect him, I mean he´s a man ha can hava a kid even when hes 70 but I can´t and I´m not getting any younger........... I want to have the physical condition to don´t sleep, be always on the lookut, play and everything a child involves.......I don´t want them to be too apart from each other agewise........

anyway thanks for your support and hopefully PT vibes work on my hubby fast so he "thinks" hes ready

[dukedogsmom]

Hate to be a killjoy, but better listen to your husband's thoughts on this
before you go ahead with what you want. Nothing worse than "tricking"
someone into fatherhood.

If you both agree, than go ahead & take a drink of the water.

I highly agree. If he's not ready, this could really cause problems with your marriage.

[Marigold2]

Men hate nothing more then a woman who tricks them into having a child. This is not only dishonest to your marriage it is immoral to bring an unwanted child into this world. If I was a man and a woman did this to me I would boot her out the door. Children are a lifelong commentment not a dirty joke to play on someone.

[sparks19]

UM lol I don't think she was insinuating that she was just gonna go ahead and get pregnant and force it on him lol. jumping the gun JUST a little aren't we?

AND.... what are the rules on the baby tricking both parents into parenthood?

[CathyBogart]

Hate to be a killjoy, but better listen to your husband's thoughts on this
before you go ahead with what you want. Nothing worse than "tricking"
someone into fatherhood.

If you both agree, than go ahead & take a drink of the water.

Ditto. My best friend left his wife because she "tricked" him after he said he wanted to finish school before trying to have a baby. It's not a happy situation for anyone, least of all the baby.

[Catty1]

I was not taking pills, but yeah he knows i took off my *thingy*....... hehe

Hey, if he does know, and he seems to, then it won't hurt him to look after birth control for a while.

Just glad he is in the loop! lol

[Marigold2]

Sorry but I have never heard of a baby tricking a parent. If they don't want it let them abort or put the child up for adoption. None of us asked to be born but once here we deserve to be wanted and loved. Not all people become parents when they have a child some stay too selfish, childess and stupid. Some should never have kids. Children are too precious to not want. If you don't or can't take care of a child there are people who will.

[dukedogsmom]

Marigold: I can't believe you've never heard about that. It's very old and well used. And preventing pregnancy is much more accepted than abortion. Abortion shouldn't be used as a method of birth control, though I do believe we should all have that right. And there are plenty of people who do not want children and shouldn't be punished for that right.

Husky_Mom: Sorry this has gotten so nasty. Perhaps we should make a new thread?

[Marigold2]

I agree lets not get mad at each other. I don't want that to happen. Lets talk about something much nicer like spring.