Tomorrow morning is THE court date for my daughter.

[Taz_Zoee]

Kim, I really don't know what to say. Please know you are in my thoughts.
((((hugs))))

[Daisy and Delilah]

All I can do is to tell you that you're all in my thoughts and prayers. Best wishes that everything goes well, Kim.
{{{{{HUGS}}}}}

[kimlovescats]

I appreciate all of your prayers and comments. I have cried so much tonight, my head is about to burst. As I am sitting here thinking of what time I need to get up to be at court in the morning, I am questioning whether I even should go. Amy Beth seems convinced that she will only get probation and even if she doesn't, what is my being there going to help? I'm tired of sitting in a courtroom and having my heart ripped out, knowing that my being there is not helping anything. All it is doing is bringing me further down and sickening my spirit. Whether I am there or not will not change the outcome. Seeing my daughter taken off in handcuffs and shackles once in court, was more than I care to see again. Sitting in the middle of a room full of strangers, bawling uncontrollably and having those strangers pass me kleenexes and tell me their stories, was also sufficient to go through ONCE. My husband cannot be there with me, and I don't feel strong enough to sit there all alone yet again. I know it is late, and few of you will have time to read this to help me make a decision on whether to go or not, but if you do, I would appreciate your input.

Confused,
Kim

[Catty1]

{{{hugs}}}

Kim, there is a saying I like, and I don't mean to be irreverent at all - it goes like this: "I might as well give my problems to God - He's going to be up all night anyway."

Now, I know there is no way this can really happen for you - this is all so upsetting...I am just suggesting that, as much as you can and gently, turn what you can over to your higher power right now, the outcome in His hands. I don't know if you can sleep, but "sleeping on this" might give you the solution in the morning.

You have done all you can for this girl.

But - I never have been a parent. I am sure others here will have wisdom that comes from that.

{{{{hugs}}}} again.

[Lobodeb]

Hi Kim.

How are you holding up?

Well, if you're still up, I think you should go to court. That way you'll hear everything for yourself and know the truth. From what you've described, it doesn't seem as if Amy Beth is capable of giving you that. I'm sorry you have to go alone, though.

I don't know, personally, I'd hate to wait to hear what happened and hear 2nd hand information.

My 2 cents.

More hugs and prayers.

[kimlovescats]

Hi Kim.

How are you holding up?

Well, if you're still up, I think you should go to court. That way you'll hear everything for yourself and know the truth. From what you've described, it doesn't seem as if Amy Beth is capable of giving you that. I'm sorry you have to go alone, though.

I don't know, personally, I'd hate to wait to hear what happened and hear 2nd hand information.

My 2 cents.

More hugs and prayers.

Deb,

That is exactly why my husband and I thought that I should go. I want to hear the "real" truth. The way the crazy court system works right now though, the charged talk with their lawyers and the DA out in the hallway and just come in and inform the judge of what they want. Of course, I know the private investigator is really out to get Amy Beth, so I am curious to hear what she is going to present before the judge. I suppose I will end up going, I'll probably be awake all night anyway and wouldn't be able to sleep wondering what was going to happen.

Candace,

I have tried to put all of my trust in God, and I do for the most part. It's so hard as a mother to turn your children over to Him. Somehow we always feel like "we" should be the ones in control of their lives. I do appreciate the reminder though!

Kim

[Catty1]

I have tried to put all of my trust in God, and I do for the most part. It's so hard as a mother to turn your children over to Him. Somehow we always feel like "we" should be the ones in control of their lives. I do appreciate the reminder though!

I know, sweetie. I am 50, and my mom phoned me after I got home from work today because it was snowing like crazy and she was afraid I had driven home in it! (I didn't - she is also my early-warning road report when there are storms! Bless her!)

You're a MOM. I didn't think for one moment you could let go of everything...but I hoped you could find some way to 'sleep on it'.

But - good point - you want to hear the reports for yourself. And if Amy Beth has any conscience, and you are there and hear stuff that TOTALLY flies in the face of what she has told you...well, she'll have to deal with that.


I know from long experience in AA, and reading other stuff - that though it seems not to matter to the kids at the time, when they later straightened out they always mention that their parents were so hurt by what they did...they just didn't have it in them to say anything. Lots of shame and guilt for them. It all takes time.

Everything will work out the way it is supposed to.

HUGS!

[columbine]

By logic and inspiration, by compassion and reality, by all life that has been, is, and will be, may justice be done.

Love, Columbine

[krazyaboutkatz]

Kim, I'm so sorry that you've had to go through all of this. My thoughts and prayers will be with you and your family. (((HUGS)))