Thank you for the support and prayers. I can't remember what all I have posted on anything that has happened since all of the charges were made and Amy Beth was arrested. Basically what I have learned, from Amy Beth ... which I can't believe anything that comes from her mouth anymore ... is that the whole *gun incident* was not what she made it out to be. We had gotten Amy Beth and Jenna their apartment under the agreement that she was leaving Chad for good, and that she did NOT want him to know where she was living. This *incident* with the *gun* was less than 2 weeks after she had moved into the apartment. I wondered at the time, why she waited hours after it had happened and had gone on to work, before she called me about it. I mean the first thing out of her mouth was, "Chad came over and pulled a gun on me tonight and threatened to kill me"! Why was she not hysterical, or crying, or too upset to go to work? I wondered all of these things at the time, but when your child is telling you that someone threatened her life, that's all you really focus on at the time. I offered to pick her up and worried about her safety, but she was far too "secure". Well, I have since learned that her charges of "filing a false report" were stemmed from the fact that Chad had been STAYING with her in her apartment during that time. He basically moved in immediately after she coersed us into getting her this "safe haven"!The private investigator checked her cell phone and found that during the time she was calling the police constantly trying to get him in trouble for "stalking" her and breaking her "order of protection" ... she was texting him messages and telling him that she loved him. So, the charges against Chad for the "weapon" are expected to be dropped tomorrow. Amy Beth not only has the false report charge but also the child neglect for having left Jenna home alone when she was called down to the police department to be questioned the day she was arrested. She had no idea why the p.i. was asking her to come to the police department so she stupidly left Jenna home alone. Not only a STUPID thing to do, but the worst possible time to do it ... when she was being arrested for something else!
During the past 3 months while awaiting the court appearance tomorrow, we have had no choice but to pay her rent. After all, she and Chad have thousands of dollars in bond to pay off, or they get put back in jail.Trust me, that is NOT why we've been paying her rent. My husband and I co-signed on her lease because she had no credit history. (Remember, the whole deal was to provide a SAFE home for her and Jenna away from Chad!) So if she doesn't pay her rent, then WE will be sued and have to pay the remainder all at once. Thank GOD, that we only signed a 6-month lease ... but we still have to pay April and May. She only gave us $100.00 towards her rent in Feb. and NOTHING towards it in March. Also, up until this past month, we were paying her utilities, cell phone, car insurance and her and Jenna's medical bills. THAT has stopped and we are "only" paying her $450.00 / month rent for the next two months and then the purse strings will be CUT!!!!
As far as baby Jenna, when Amy Beth was arrested for the "neglect" charges, the court awarded custody to Chad. However, since he is a loser, he left Jenna in his mother's care and started hanging out and mooching off of Amy Beth and OUR apartment instead of being a father to Jenna. So ... his mother (Denise) just filed for temporary custody of Jenna. I didn't know this until today, and tomorrow Chad and Amy Beth also have a court appearance for that as well. Today I snapped. I went to Amy Beth's apartment (her car was in the parking lot) and pounded on her door for a good 10 minutes. I knew that "they" were probably both in there and totally ignoring me. Finally I called Denise (Chad's mother) to make sure she didn't know that Amy Beth was somewhere else without her car. Well, while I was sitting in my car speaking with Denise, Chad came down the breezeway from the apartment, looking both ways to see if it was safe for him to leave! Imagine his surprise when I yelled at him from my new van (he has never seen) and called him out on it. I then proceeded to blast him out while his mother heard every word on the phone. Of course the last thing he said was to call me a "M F" which is common verbage from his mouth.
Anyway, after my confrontation with him, I went and blasted Amy Beth as well. I vented my frustration, my anger, my depression, and my motherly fear of her going to jail for years, all in one emotional burst. I just could no longer hold back. I said things to her that I know were hurtful, but I honestly feel them at this point in my life. There have been too many lies, disrespect, and manipulation to feel much else anymore. I did not fall into my normally "motherful" role of the "I love you's" and "honey", "darling", "sweethearts". The last thing I told her is that if I find out that Chad is over in her apartment any more, I will rent a moving van and remove all of her furniture myself. Then I left her apartment without one more word.
After that, I did what I always do ... I medicated with junk food in my car, and tried to go shopping. I cried through the aisles of Hobby Lobby and yet still found myself looking at things that I could buy for "Amy Beth's apartment" or "Jenna's bedroom".I don't have anymore little girls to buy for and I'll never have that again. My own "baby" (Amanda) has grown up way too quickly and has never been one that I could pamper like Amy Beth. I feel so lost right now. My love for decorating and buying things for my girls is how I express myself and it thrills me to no end. I bought so many nice things for "their" (AMy Beth and Jenna's) new home together ... only to find out that Chad was there and then baby Jenna was removed.
Thank you.
Kim
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Best wishes that everything goes well, Kim.
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